Hello Everyone! I am dealing with a marijuana smoking issue that I believe to be an addiction with my boyfriend and not sure where to start in helping him. Anybody with suggestions please give advice. To give a bit of background, my boyfriend and I are in our mid-twenties. We have been dating for 2.5 years and living together for 1.5 years. We lived in NY and when we met, I was in the process of moving to Maryland with a friend, in which I did, but 9 months after meeting him, so we clicked and became an item in that time. Long story short, a year later he moved to MD to be with me. When I met him, I knew he smoked (and smoke bothers me. I dated a guy in h.s that smoked allllll the time and he knew if he wanted to smoke he had to leave the room or open windows all the way and I sit all the way on the opposite side.) but it did not occur to me how often he smoked. I didn't see him every single day in NY when we were dating and he wasn't smoking when we went on dates and didn't physically appear high nor smelled of it and if he did smoke while I was at his place he would do it in the bathroom or go outside. So I didn't think it was a big deal. But when we moved in together I got to see and smell how often it was and it bothered me. At first I limit him to where in the apt he could smoke because I didn't want to inhale that everywhere. He only smoked in the bathroom and then complained that he felt like a prisoner in his own home. We made an agreement he can smoke in our second room. As time went by I noticed he smoked like every single day multiple times. And it bothered me but it didn't make me angry just annoyed. So I spoke to him about it and told him it bothered me and asked him to just cut the frequency of it. I didn't and still don't care that he smokes it, its the frequency and need that bother me. He said he would cut down and he may have for a week and then went back to it again. We've had the same talk several times throughout the year and I ask him why he does it; I've gotten multiple answers of stress, and relax, and recently the reply was that he was bored. It's been so long and repetitive for me that it doesn't just simply annoy me when he smokes anymore, I get disgusted. I don't want to look at him or speak to him or be around him when he is high and I've told him that flat out multiple times and asked him that when he smokes would he please not stay near me. He said okay but then he'll go out to smoke and then come back and want to sit next to me or talk to me or have sex. And I've told him multiple times that I get turned off when he smokes yet he still questions why I get distant after he does it. I don't understand. I want a life with him. I want to marry him and have kids. He's a great person but judging by his actions and the fact that hes been smoking since young and his body is depending on this substance for him to gain a appetite or to sleep or when hes just bored, I believe he's addicted. I've brought him to my middle school afterschool class for an end of year party with the kids and he got high before we left. I bought my nieces down to visit me and he smoked the week they were here. He went outside to smoke but he hid in our room to roll up and I smelled it, if I smelled it they sure did and they're not stupid. They were 13, 9 and 5 at the time. He wanted to get high when my mom came to visit as well. These were all spaced out events but what really gets to me is why do you have the need to get high for no reason and can't not do it around kids. So this makes me think that if he does that now he will in the future with our kids. I don't want my kids to grow up in that type of environment. Long story short. Recently I noticed he's been more frequent again. I guess its less a does because I don't smell it as potent as before and sometimes he'll go outside. But I seriously cannot deal with it and everytime I come home I don't want to be near him. We had a talk AGAIN but everytime we have it he breaks down and say he doesn't think I realize or appreciate the sacrifice and life he gave up for our relationship and he thinks that my issue is more than just him smoking and that I want to break up with him. He has admitted to me this time that he has an issue and said he would go to counseling with me. I'm feeling a bit sad and anxiety among other things. This issue has grown into something serious for me. I am not sure where to start. I found some dates and times for narcotics anonymous but also looked at some counseling/therapy options. What do you guys recommend we start with and how can I be supportive without him thinking hes a horrible boyfriend and that I want to break up?