Hello everyone, I am trying to find support and advice to help me properly help my loved one. I'm 21, she 20. We have been together for 4 years. We have had a rollercoaster ride of a relationship. We have both hit tops and bottoms, but we always came out together. We usually communicate well, but recently I noticed a few changes. I just shrugged it off as extra stress from her dying loved one. I "supported" her, but I believe she took it as an opportunity to start abusing. She recently broke up with me (about 2 or 3 weeks ago). Background: she had a loved one pass away, and ended up staying with a "friend" in her hometown for about a week. (30-45 minutes from where we live). When she had a chance to come back, she had packed everything up and told me she was leaving. It broke me, and blinded me at first. The first week was hard, and I didn't understand the severity of the situation. I fear that I may have made the issues worse in this time. It wasn't until after the first week that a few of my friends from that town reached out and told me of her recent behaviour. I was told that she was abusing Calodopins, and Xanax, as well as drinking near every night. It progressed, and I was told she has been sleeping around with people she barely knows, some of which are knows daily abusers of heavier drugs. She has even slept with a person in exchange for Xanax bars, and the need to feel "loved". The "friend" she had been staying with has no job, but sells Marijuana illegally for a living. I feel that she is enabling my girlfriends abuse, and just pulling her farther into this destructive behavior. When I visited my girlfriend to return belongings, this friend was reminding her that it was ME who caused her problems. This hit me hard, and I shut down for a couple days to take care of myself, and figure out how to approach. I reached out to her family, but they didn't seem to know how to approach and I'm afraid they aren't going to help. Despite all of the pain she has caused me, I still care for her well-being. I want to address my concerns and help her realize her destructive behavior. She told me that she would like time before we talked next; 2 weeks. I realize that I had let myself go at first, causing me to believe that it truly was my fault that this was happening. I eventually got advice telling me to take care of myself and move on. I agreed that I had to take care of myself, but I am not yet willing to move on. She deserves the care and support, but I am not sure how to proceed. I have thought about getting assistance from a professional, but with all the recent circumstances, it's not quite affordable. Thanks for your time, any advice would be appreciated.