Hi everyone, Just posting to get some advice and help, thanks for reading. I've been married for 12 years and we have four kids, two girls and two boys. My husbands been smoking pot for as long as I've known him but it's become an issue. He was smoking five or more times a day and it seemed like all he did was think about pot. He's got mad plenty of times, put his hands on me before, pushed me, spit on me, been verbally abusive. He said he doesn't have a problem and doesn't want to quit. But he's always so up and down when smoking. One year when he quit for 12 months we got along great. He says he will quit for us, stops a few days, then asks if he can smoke just once a week away from the home. When I say no he gets mad again and threatens divorce. He says he wants a divorce, doesn't love me, that I'm trying to control him because I don't want him smoking pot. I just want him to quit for the family and I'd rather work things out. He's the bread winner, I watch the kids. Does anyone have suggestions on how I can keep our family together and get him to stop smoking? Thanks in advance!