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50 Essential Tips To Help You Stay Clean And Sober

Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by Lizel, Aug 6, 2015.

  1. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    Making the decision to get clean and sober is the easy part. Actually staying clean and sober – that’s a different story altogether.

    1. For your first few months sober, your only goal each day is to make it through without a drink.

    2. Don’t overestimate your control over your addiction. Everyone does at some point.

    3. Practice complete abstinence. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can moderate your alcohol intake. It won’t work out in the long run.

    4. Seek out in-patient treatment if you can afford it.

    5. Take physical care of yourself. Exercise regularly and eat well.

    6. Cut out toxic relationships from your life. This includes friendships and romance.

    7. Build new healthy relationships with positive people.

    8. Reconnect with friends and loved ones who may have distanced themselves.

    9. Don’t mistake an enthusiasm to change with actual action. The former is nice to have, but the latter is will produce actual change.

    10. Reach out to others in recovery.
  2. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    11. You’re responsible for your own sobriety. You can take advice and seek out support, but ultimately you need to be responsible for your own recovery.

    12. Do what works for you, never believe anyone who tells you that their way is the only way.

    13. At the same time, make sure you’re not lying to yourself. If what you’re doing doesn’t work, then you have to take massive action to change.

    14. Forgive others. Don’t harbor resentment or bitterness.

    15. Move beyond self-pity. Feeling sorry for yourself won’t accomplish anything. Accept the cards that you were dealt, and move on. Tomorrow is the beginning of the rest of your life.

    16. Heighten your self-awareness through meditation and self-reflection.

    17. Keep busy. Especially in your first few months of sobriety. Staying sober is hard enough, its even harder if you don’t know how to live life without alcohol.

    18. Learn to have fun without alcohol. Trust me, its possible.

    19. Talk to your parents. Whether you’re a teenager or an adult, its important to communicate with your family – especially your parents.

    20. Develop a support network. Whether this involves aftercare programs like AA or NA, build an extended family who understand what you’re going through.
  3. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    21. Take long walks. This can be a good substitute or compliment to full-out meditation.

    22. Take up an artistic hobby. Sculpting, playing an instrument, painting etc.

    23. Take up an outdoor hobby. Running, biking, surfing, even flying a kite. Whatever gets you outside on a beautiful summer afternoon.

    24. Take up a social hobby. Go take a cooking class or a dance class, something that will get you interacting with mainstream society.

    25. Take up old hobbies. Rekindle your love for hobbies that may have fallen by the wayside during your addiction.

    26. Be grateful. Everyday, write down 5 things you’re grateful for that day. It can be anything, from your loving family, to the air you’re breathing.

    27. Join an online recovery forum. It’ll not only be helpful for staying sober – you might actually enjoy the discussions.

    28. Go back to school. Use education to achieve your dreams.

    29. Improve your job skills. If you need to take part-time courses or learn a new trade, do it.

    30. Go to the library. It’s a free way to stimulate your mind, reflect, keep busy, and grow. It can be fun too.
  4. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    31. Spend more time with your family. You can never really do this enough.

    32. Avoid your old hangouts. That’s just asking for trouble.

    33. Make a bucket list. Then go out and do it.

    34. Travel somewhere that’s far removed from the norm. If you don’t have the finances to go to a distant country, go camping in the wilderness.

    35. Form productive habits. You’ll have a much easier time staying busy and sober if you have routines that keep you moving forward.

    36. Leave your comfort zone. At the same time, don’t use habits as a way of avoiding new experiences and challenges.

    37. Quit smoking. You’ll thank yourself later.

    38. Create the life you want. Don’t settle for the life you have.

    39. Stop making excuses. This applies to everything you do.

    40. Stop blaming others. Again, this applies to everything you do.
  5. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    41. Be humble. Always be willing to learn, and don’t assume you “know the way”.

    42. Reconnect with your religious roots. It’s not for everyone, but if religion gives you peace of mind, then don’t let it slip from you life.

    43. Give back to the community. Do volunteer work, or get involved in a recovery group.

    44. Avoid vices. Just because you’ve kicked your alcohol or drug addiction, doesn’t mean that addiction won’t still creep up on you. Don’t replace your alcohol addiction with gambling, pills etc.

    45. Don’t get complacent. Always keep moving forward in your personal growth.

    46. Discover your true passion. The only way to do this is to try new things.

    47. If you know your passion, pursue it. You only get one chance at life. Don’t waste it doing things you don’t want to do.

    48. Take pride in responsibility. Chasing a dream doesn’t mean you get to neglect your responsibilities. Learn to find balance.

    49. Don’t live in fear. Accept that their are some things you control, and other things you don’t. Don’t let the things you can’t control, control YOU.

    50. If you do relapse, don’t let it slip back into full-out abuse. Accept that you’re human and that you’ll slip up. Then take massive action to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

    Feel free to post any other tips, that have helped you on your way.
  6. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Thank you for sharing all those great and awesome tips to us here. Very relevant and helpful. :) I hope that a lot of recovering addicts would find the inspiration and motivation to do/practice all those things you have listed.
  7. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    I'm glad that you found those tips valuable for yourself, yes I hope that too. :D
  8. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    The first point on the list is hugely important!

    For your first few months sober, your only goal each day is to make it through without a drink.

    Sometimes I think as humans we try to go into things all guns blazing, we take on a million and one things, and then we realize we simply can't do it all. It's brilliant to be committed to something - but first, focus on the simple goal of just taking it one day at a time without having a drink.
  9. anorexorcist

    anorexorcist Community Champion

    Thanks for sharing! This is really useful even if you're not struggling with an addiction, its always good to keep in contact with your family, create healthy relationships, be grateful for the things that you have, etc. I think is a great part of a positive lifestyle that everyone should have.
  10. MoneyFiend

    MoneyFiend Member

    These are some great tips for the road to recovery. Number 44 is a point that is all too often broken as replacing the void is much easier than letting it heal. I like how you included "Leave your comfort zone" because usually we grow comfortable to situations we often find ourselves in and leaving your comfort zone can be a good the first step to allowing change to take place.
  11. AFKATafcar

    AFKATafcar Community Champion

    Most of these tips are pretty good, but I'm against giving people blanket tips for dealing with things, especially sobriety. Everyone is different, so it's important to cater to their specific needs and create something more personal. General tips won't work for everyone, but specialized attention and customized care/tips can really help a person stay clean and sober long-term.
  12. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    This is really good to share in here. :)
    Those tips are helpful and can give lots of ideas and motivation as well. Correct that having the will is good but better to make actions.
  13. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    Yes, of course. We should be grateful for everything good we have in our life. It's so unfair that children in Africa are starving, while some stupid stars in America bathe in luxury.
  14. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    Thanks for sharing this, I like tip #12, the part where you should do what works for you and don't be forced to do what other people say that you should do. We should never let ourselves be dictated. We have our own free will and minds.
    Last edited: Aug 10, 2015
  15. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    Yes, it's amusing how people don't release that they are the owns that control their minds.
    Some people let others to manipulate with their feelings and thoughts, it's unacceptable.
    We are the only ones that can allow emotions and thoughts flow in our heads.
  16. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    @Lizel, Yes, some people are quite doormats and they tend to just follow whatever is asked of them, and it's pretty common in people who are in a relationship. People should not let themselves be dominated by other people at all, and the same goes for recovering addicts.
  17. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    @serenity Yes, you made the point clear. We shouldn't let our minds get dominated by others, we have the right to feel whatever we expect and nobody should have an influence on our thoughts and emotions.
  18. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    @Lizel, Well said. Upon re-reading your post, the tips are also applicable to any area of life and not just with drug addiction, haven't you noticed? They can apply to life in general.
  19. Winterybella

    Winterybella Community Champion

    Wow! Fifty tips is a lot. I read as many as I could and so far there is nothing that seems to be missing. Fifty (50) seems quite fittingly placed. It's so important to point out that a person could relapse and recovery is not assured on your first attempt to gain sobriety. Still you don't give up but redouble your efforts so to speak. Very useful tips Lizel.
  20. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    Yes, I did notice that. Anybody can really benefit from those tips to take a step further in leading a happier life.