I feel like every since I was a child, my father has been lost. I know growing up he saw and went through some tough times, but to carry it through your whole life and let it destroy you and your family....breaks my heart. For as long as I can remember, my father has put the responsbility of helping his addiction all on me. It is as if he thinks I can heal him. It is not fair for someone to hold that against you in life. We have been through some really bad times and he had been an abusive father...but to put the weight of the world on your daughters shoulders...it really is not fair. My question is what can you do and how do you deal with something like this. I have tried to get him help for years and tried to lead him down the right path, but it all ends back up with a 3 am completely drunk phone call about how he gave in. What can a daughter do for her father, for her own mind, heart, and soul?