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Accountability Buddy

Discussion in 'Other Substances' started by Deeishere, Mar 30, 2016.

  1. Deeishere

    Deeishere Active Contributor

    One of my friends and I decided to hold each other accountable for what we eat and do to our bodies. We plan to cut back on the junk and increase our intake of healthy foods. She is fortunate enough to work at a job where she is always moving. I am not working so I need to get back into my exercises. Do you have someone you are accountable to in helping you to stay on the right track?
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  2. djolem

    djolem Senior Contributor

    This is a wonderful idea actually. It never occurred to me to do it because I have my diet managed myself. However, I have always been there for my lazy friends and family because they know all about my discipline and that it is not a problem for me to call them daily and remind them about things they should do or eat.
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  3. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    I think this is a wonderful idea. My husband and I are supporting each other. He has quit smoking, drinking and doing drugs and I am getting my life healthy again by eating right and exercising. We hold each other accountable. It isn't always easy but it is great to have a supportive partner through it all. It is all about discipline.
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  4. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    Great idea! Teamwork, support, and accountability!! :)
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  5. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    Unfortunately no, but I do follow people on social media with healthy lifestyles. There are celebrities I follow that have healthy lifestyles, seeing there post remind me of what I'm doing. I also have some facebook friends that eat very healthy food this is helpful when I need to be influenced also. Seeing these post on social media are very helpful reminders for a healthy lifestyle.
  6. morgoodie

    morgoodie Senior Contributor

    I have done something similar in the past, but do not do it now. I think it is a great idea and it is bound to be more beneficial for you and your friend. A long time ago, I joined a gym with a friend of mine and we would go work out together or take walks after work. It was very helpful since I am the type of person that needs to have external motivation when doing this type of thing.
  7. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    Well at this point I'm not trying to lose weight at all, but if I did, then I still would have to find that person who is willing to meddle into my life that way.
  8. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    Having a friend you are accountable for many people provides them with another reason why they should keep fighting. I have a friend who I often called while I was fighting an addiction and he'd always have something to tell me that would encourage me to resist the cravings. This support you'll be getting at any time can make a huge difference.
  9. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    Sadly no. I tried it once, but it doesn't work unless you are close to the person and communicate daily. You need to trust each other and be good friends, have this goal in common and a true desire to improve your lives. Sadly i've yet to meet someone like that.
  10. darkrebelchild

    darkrebelchild Community Champion

    My husband and I are always at each other when there is extra fat noticeable between us. He used to go to work with friends in a private car and he was more relaxed which made his belly protrude and his butt and thighs bigger. I would tease him as 'fatty'. So he started walking to the bus station to get to work and the walks have trimmed him down.

    But now it's my turn, he says my belly is getting flabby. I have started my 30-day challenge of push up, crunches and sit ups. We are always at each other to stay fit and I hope as we get older, we would not get tired and give up on it.
  11. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    No, but it is a really good idea. I was in a weight loss buddy group one time, but didn't take it very seriously, so it didn't really help. It might be something good to revisit though. Thanks for mentioning it. So far, I am doing pretty well on my own, and I am comfortable with how I am doing weight wise. IF I start having problems I might reconsider.
  12. Coolkidhere

    Coolkidhere Community Champion

    I would love for my husband to be my accountability buddy. Sadly, he's still addicted to nicotine and alcohol so i cannot really count on him. And yes, I've confronted him a lot of times about his addiction but he still won't quit. It's hard to be on recovery when your husband isn't even on it.

    He can be the one, at times, to trigger the addiction especially when I see him smoking and drinking. I'm just glad that at least, he does it outside the house and when he's out of sight. But yeah, I can still catch a glimpse of him from time to time. In a way, it has made me more strong against the cravings.

    But yeah, long story short, I don't have an accountability buddy right now. To be honest, I want my husband to the one. I want us to quit together and be in this journey together. But that isn't going to happen any time soon.

    My friends are still addicted to nicotine and alcohol as well. Only one friend of mine isn't but she's so far away. I get to talk to her once in a while. And she cannot be my accountability buddy because she isn't always on her phone.