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Addicted Husband

Discussion in 'Helping an Addicted Loved One' started by AshleyRose, Sep 12, 2017.

  1. AshleyRose

    AshleyRose Member

    Me and my husband have been together for 5 years. When we met we both used drugs recreationally. After we had our son we decided to get clean. I've been clean for 2 years now. My husband quite smoking pot popping pills ect but he started smoking synthetic marijuana/Gucci. He's never really been the addict that was me but now the Gucci has consumed him. I try to get him help I've tried leading by example I've prayed I've done everything I know to do. He stuck by me in my addiction so I can't bring myself to separate from him because he never left me. But I'm at the end of my rope, he tells me how much he wants to quit but does the exact opposite. I just don't know what to do anymore.
  2. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @AshleyRose... I'm sorry to hear about your husband's addiction. That synthetic marijuana is horrible, dangerous stuff, for sure.

    I understand your reluctance to separate from him because he stuck by you when you were addicted. But you have to remember that your life is important, too. If you're unhappy and in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, how long are you willing to put up with that? What if your husband just refuses to change his lifestyle? Is that how you want to live from this point on?

    I know it's a tough situation to be in. But remember that YOUR life is important, too. Your happiness in life shouldn't be dependent on your husband's behavior. If he won't change, then maybe you need to consider making some changes.

    Al-Anon and Nar-Anon teach us that we didn't cause our loved one's addiction, we can't control it, and we can't cure it. It's up to your husband to make the decisions necessary to change his life. It doesn't matter how much you want him to change. He has to pull the trigger.

    Maybe sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Tell him you're concerned about his health and well-being. Tell him how his drug use makes YOU feel. Because your feelings matter. Talk to him with love and empathy...not anger or confrontation. Maybe try that and see how it goes.

    I wish I had a magic wand I could send you to fix things. Unfortunately, though, that's not how things work.

    I'm sending you lots of love and light. And big hugs full of hope. I will send your husband positive, healing vibes, too.
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