Addicted to a Person?

I have a weird problem with a friend...it seems as if he is addicted/obsessed with me, not in a romantic way. He wants to text me constantly or talk with me on the phone nonstop. There are days when I'm busy and can't talk that I will still get at least one text an hour asking if I can talk yet or what am I doing. It's recently progressed to wanting to know where I am. Am I home yet? Am I at so and so's house still, etc. It's starting to get a bit creepy. What should I do?

You sure it is not in a romantic way?
If not, maybe he has a problem and wanting to always have someone to talk you and that is you for him. Maybe try to find out why he is acting weird or if you can ask him directly, why not? You can also try to tell him that it is bothering you already.

Yeah, I was going to ask that also, are you really sure it is not in a romantic way? It seems like there is a possibility that he has some romantic intentions with you. He is surely acting like an over protective boyfriend. I don't think friends has this need to constantly text another whether they're in their house yet or not or other such things.

I think you should confront him. He might get hurt if you just ignore him and the friendship might be ruined. Tell him that you are starting to feel a bit uncomfortable with what he is doing. If you still want to keep the friendship, that is. But you can just ignore him if he's not that important in your life. I've gotten into some situations like this and usually they just stop if you ignore them.

Have you tried telling him you are bothered by his behavior, and ask him to stop? It is sometimes a good thing to do. If, however, things get worse, try to ignore / avoid him, as people with a possessive behavior often have mental issues.

He might as well feel lonely and depressed, and doesn't know what to do anymore. You probably seem like the best friend to him, and he needs your support or validation. Try and talk to the dude about this, maybe he needs some help.

He's just lonely, take it easy...it'll pass once he overcomes this stage and become less lonely...it certainly isn't romantic because if it was he wouldn't be texting you like that, I mean who does that to their crush? I've seen cases like this, some guys are just obsessed to hang out with their friends. If he continues this behavior and it bothers you, don't say it to his face, let him down easily...

That's indeed creepy behavior and you need to set some boundaries with this friend of yours. You need to make it perfectly clear to him that you're not comfortable with him calling or texting you all the time. That doesn't mean that you will cease all communications with him, just reduce it to a reasonable amount. Hopefully he will understand this and respond accordingly.

I would say that he is just lonely and he reaches out to you because he knows you will talk back to him. Some people are just more needy then others. They need to have people to talk to. To you it may seem like a bother but to this guy you talking to him means something to him. He values your friendship. If it is really bothering you then you should tell him but be prepared that by doing so you may hurt his feelings.

I think it's time to set some boundaries with him. Talk about your feelings and decide what you're going to do further, he may be in love with you and you might just lure him in for no reason (of course, not intentionally). He most likely has an interest in you, no friend wants to talk to you non-stop.

I do know it's not romantic - we had THAT discussion some weeks ago. On Wednesday, I sat him down for a long talk. I found out he's really struggling due to the upcoming anniversary of his mother's death. We talked about that and about how bad his anxiety is...which led right into his need for constant contact with his friends. Turns out he had already realized he was being too emotionally attached to me after a conversation with his best friend's mom. The result of it all - he's looking for a therapist to start seeing to help with his anxieties and how he needs constant contact with his friends to try and control his anxiety.

You are a guy and he's a guy. You know he's not gay. I think I know what this is about. Sometimes we get what we give.
Maybe not a real situation. Just a something to say story. Lol I don't mind if someone calls and texts all the time if I am in love or like. If someone is not fitting that, not so much. Its really got nothing to do with telling anybody anything. I know who you are talking about and what you are saying. It wouldn't of made a difference. It certainly doesn't mean anything now. The incognito forum posts.
He is the guy I spoke of in another section. Really, what is being said says nothing much unless you know what and who. People get offended for a reason and they end up with just deserts.

Since you already have confirmed that it's because of his mom's death, then you now know where he's coming from. At least you tried to understand him and gave him support and you did not abandon him when he needs someone to talk to.

You need to set boundaries with such person. Let them know you feel (insert emotion) and things need to change. I don't know the chances of obsessive people becoming violent, not that all are, but your safety comes first. Call the cops if you have to.

Good thing that you talked to him already. That explains why he is super attached to you for the past few days. I think consulting a therapist is a good idea and it will help him in the long run with his anxiety. You can still talk to him from time to time since you are friends anyways. At least now, you know where he is coming from.

I think your friend behavior is not a form of addiction to a person that we may called it. Maybe he is just looking for someone to talk to and to condole him because he is still not recovering from the loss of her mother. I think there is no romantic issues about this and he is just trying to reach out for a friend whom he can share his feelings for what had happened to him. I think you don't have to be bothered by this thing.

Do you go to work? You need to be doing some constructive work instead of thinking of being close to your friend. If you do not have work to do then go read in the library. Your behavior can affect your future timetable when you will have other assignments to attend to.