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Discussion in 'Alcohol' started by Benjamins12, Nov 1, 2015.

  1. Benjamins12

    Benjamins12 Member

    About seven years now, I have been using alcohol. I mostly drink with my friends and never considered I might have a problem with it. I have started to drink too much or spend too much. I have decided to quit from it. Even though I try to quit drinking for a couple of weeks, something comes up in my mind and I end up having a few again. My mom have taken an appointment with a specialist at Edgewood health network, an alcohol addiction treatment centre in Calgary which is near our house. But I am really confused. I am having such a hard time stopping it. Someone please give me advice on how to quit. Thank you.
  2. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Benjamins12... Welcome to the forum and thanks for sharing. Getting sober isn't easy, but if you set the goal, focus on it, and are willing to work your butt off to achieve it, you can do it. Taking things one day at a time--or even one hour or minute at a time if you need to--is a great approach. Also, AA or SMART Recovery meetings can really help. Getting support from people who have experienced what you're experiencing is invaluable. Also, professional help can be fabulous, so it's great that you have an appointment with someone. I hope they can assist you in finding your way to long-term recovery.

    We are a caring, supportive group of people who will never judge you. So know that you can reach out to us anytime you need or want to. We are here for you, my friend.

    Keep doing the next right thing.

    Peace and hugs.
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  3. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    Admitting that you have a problem makes the difference between victory and failure. As long as you are willing and ready to fight the addiction don't despair. Nothing happens overnight. Battling an addiction is a process. Take it slow, resist the cravings an hour at a time . . .
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  4. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    You have to make your mind up, If you can believe it you can achieve it. Find replacement hobbies and seek out things that make you happy and feel better about yourself. There are many things you can do to break an addiction, but will power is the determining factor. If you fail don't get discouraged pick yourself up and try again until you find something that works. All things are possible to him that believes Mark 9:23.
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  5. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    It is a great thing that you have the want to stop it or change for the better. That consultation could be helpful to you so, I think that it is a good idea too. Support groups could help you feel motivated in kicking the habit totally.
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  6. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    Deciding your quitting and going through with it are two different things entirely. A lot of people say they are quitting but they don't really want to, it's just something they are being forced in to by others.

    when it's clear in your own mind what you want and need to do, there's plenty of help available, but that first step will have to come from you.
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  7. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Hello there, @Benjamins12! Welcome to the forum and thanks for sharing. Well, it's really nice to hear that you are very much willing to quit alcohol for good. However, just like what you have said, it is never an easy thing. But if you will just try to stay focused on your goal, and have patience, I am pretty sure you will overcome this issue soon. I suggest go to that meeting, and be as open-minded as possible. The people you will encounter there will help and support you, so don't worry about it. I wish you all the best! Keep us posted.
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  8. Psyduck

    Psyduck Active Contributor

    Stopping completely is hard in my opinion. The key here is to slowly eradicate it from your lifestyle. Start by drinking once a week, then once a month and so on. Another important thing to note is, find another hobby or activity which makes you invest a lot of time in.
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  9. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    I think that you are doing the right thing by coming to this forum because many people here have been three when it comes to drugs and alcohol. It is one o the reasons that people like to participate in the forum. They get support and ideas rom other people who have had the same struggles. I know that you can and will overcome this as you are able to.
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  10. henry

    henry Community Champion

    Sometimes it's not that we've become alcoholics. It's that we've made a whole routine around alcohol for years, and then, conditioning takes its toll, just like it did with Pavlov's dog. Routines are hard to break depending on how much we like it and how long we've been doing it. I suggest first you get help with your drinking just in case you really do have a problem with it, and then, start making new routines that don't involve drinking.
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  11. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

  12. charris89

    charris89 Member

    You have to want to quit for yourself, but I've found what helps me is having someone to have as my motivation. For me it's my wife and son. I want my son to be healthy and I also don't want him to grow up in an unstable household. I no longer binge drink, or go to bars. I do have a drink every once and a while, but never around my child. You mentioned your mom, so I gather you two or pretty close. It's never shameful to lean on someone for help or guidance. Addiction can be a terrible beast, and you should never have to face it alone. Maybe there is someone else in your life who could help you, or who could be your motivation to quit. It's takes a long time to break a a habit, but it definitely can be done. Never give up on yourself even when times are tough.
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  13. p4lse

    p4lse Member

    Hang in there man! The best thing to do is to indulge yourself in a new hobby/activity and make sure it keeps you occupied. Another thing is to go to the gym and keep yourself fit. These 2 things are incredibly useful and would take your mind off alcohol.
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  14. eveliner

    eveliner Senior Contributor

    Hey, thanks for venting! I'm glad you decided to join this platform.
    About your actual problem, I can only advise you not to permanently quit alcohol but to actually consume moderately. If you consider ceasing to drink alcohol permanently, then you might be better off quitting gradually than all at once since you'll make yourself even more addicted than you had previously been.
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  15. djolem

    djolem Senior Contributor

    I have an issue with this but not like you. I have some problems in love and being a romantic poet and i idealize everything about the one i love i just can not bear the fact she is with someone else having fun. This story is not important. I start drinking before i go to sleep for two reasons. Not to think about what she is doing and where is she and to write because for some reason when i get tipsy my inspiration is stronger. Now, it helps me fall a sleep sooner and my poems are much better or written in a manner i would prefer. However, i was afraid i might develop a habit like you did and become an alcoholic. Then, i went to work on a mountain for some 10 days and we did not have any alcohol so i guessed i would need some but it turned out i am able to say no. Simple as that. Even when some of the village people there offered me some drink i refused. My focus was on the work and i got tired during the day so my thoughts were not on my problem. That was the solution so i guess it depends on the reason. I drink to forget her and contradictory enough, to write about it and her. Try to be strong and say no, what ever the reason is find a better one to quit and say no,
  16. 111kg

    111kg Community Champion

    First of all, congrats. Recognizing that you have a problem and deciding to get help is a huge step. Now, think at all those people who are affected by the fact that you drink. Think at al those experiences you could have if you were sober. Isn't that worth fighting for? It would be for me.
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  17. Jack Wallace

    Jack Wallace Senior Contributor

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  18. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    I think your mom has taken the first step for you, now it's up to you to go for it and actually stick to it. You need to work on this, you need to truly want it. Give this a try, go in for treatment and give your best. Listen to the people there, and try to learn as much as you can over there. Even if you don't think your drinking problem is serious... you need to give this a try.
  19. LovesBigFool

    LovesBigFool Active Contributor

    Wow! Not being able to stop when you want to is an awful thing. It most likely indicates that you are addicted. While a professional counselor can be a great help, there is only one person who can tell if you do have a problem, that person is you.

    That problem, if you have it, has two sides, one mental, one physical.

    The physical problem is that once you have a drink you cannot stop if you want to or need to. The mental is wanting to not take the first drink and tricking yourself into doing it anyway (something you have mentioned in your post).
  20. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    Hello @Benjamins12! It's been a few months but I hope you've managed to overcome your alcohol issues and are now living the life you want. There's no shortcut to recovery so I believe that if you continue to hold on and hope for the best, the thought of drinking won't bother you as much as it did in the past.