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Addicted to attention

Discussion in 'Other Substances' started by amethyst, May 21, 2015.

  1. amethyst

    amethyst Community Champion

    What do you think about all those attention seekers out there? People who have an enormous need for being noticed and admired. Do you have patience for them and try to understand their personal motivation for their constant need to stand in the limelight? Or do you quickly get tired of such folks and leave them to be admired by others? Are you someone who needs a lot attention to feel good?
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  2. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    I get sick of this kind of people really quick, although I know it's not entirely their fault for being like this. I think it has to do a lot with how parents and people perceive them, not a bad trait of someones personality.
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  3. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    That's a really sad thing to go through because I know how it feels. I went through it and it can bring you down a lot and put you in a depressed state. The way to overcome is by realizing what happens after you got attention, there's nothing special about it and it doesn't make you any less or any more than what you already are.
  4. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    I am actually someone who likes not to be noticed and be free moving around without someone looking. :p
    Those who are addicted to attention might have some event/s in their lives that made them like that. Or they set in their minds that being the center of attention always makes them feel better.
  5. chanelskii

    chanelskii Member

    The life of an attention-seeker sounds exhausting. What happens if ou fail? It would depress you. I for one love to be in the sweet spot where I have enough people looking at me and still have freedom. I don't worry about people criticizing my every move.

    Usually I have very short patience on people who are attention seekers. I get irritated immediately, I don't want to be around them a alot. I'm not being righteous at all it's just that they tend to get irritating as time goes and also insecure especially if something good happens to you. I tend to avoid those kind of people.
  6. Damien Lee

    Damien Lee Community Champion

    That sounds a lot like an ex-girlfriend of mine. She came from a well-to-do, privileged background and was good-looking to boot. You can imagine what all this did to her ego over the years. Constantly, she would expect attention and if she didn't get it she would become infuriated. This was one relationship that was just too difficult for me to maintain, as I generally like to be out of the limelight.
  7. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    Absolutely. Trauma is a major cause for it.
  8. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    But I am also thinking that some might just used to too much attention that made them addicted to it. Some examples could be the celebrities as well as those who are spoiled by their parents or guardians. There could be also other reasons why some got addicted to attention.
  9. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    I'm no doctor, but in my opinion they feel like the more attention they get, the more they deserve it. It's like they use it to judge how good of a person they are, or how pretty, or likable. They need other people to validate themselves.
  10. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    I would agree to certain extent. I would say the people who have attention are bored of it because they experience it and it's nothing. I would encourage those who struggle with it to know it's not worth it because it's vain.
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  11. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    I have seen people who were total attention hounds do a complete 180, but it was always after being being humbled, or forced to learn humility.
  12. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    Absolutely. Humility is a beautiful thing because it changes a person completely in a lot of aspects, it is beautiful.
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  13. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    A lot of people would disagree with that. I don't tho. Humility makes you more beautiful on the inside. I honestly doubt there is anyone that wouldn't apply, too.
  14. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    More than calling it addiction, people who are "addicted to attention" may be suffering from a serious mental or behavioral illness. You've heard of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), right? Rather than condemning them, we should offer our help.
  15. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    There are actually a number of personality disorders that can cause that kind of behavior. Bipolar, histrionic, and a few others.
  16. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    It's in itself a personality disorder or behavioral abnormality. That's why they call it attention deficiency disorder. Bipolar, histrionic or schizophrenia may or may not go with it. It's an independent affliction for the most part.
  17. ZXD22

    ZXD22 Senior Contributor

    Sometimes I can't tell if they seek attention for the heck of it or of they seriously have a problem. We are all humans and deserve the same amount attention to be honest... If you are sick or injured possibly more attention, but it just gets old man...
  18. vegito12

    vegito12 Community Champion

    I reckon some people may have had a rough childhood or background, so they may seek attention which can bother others, but not these people or they don't notice it. Some people can be like Gaston from Beauty and the Beast film, we see he is good looking but has a big ego and wants the best and the town people view him as a saint when he is not which shows this can cause some to think they are better. I reckon that some people get a lot of attention than they need and when they don't get upset over small things and have seen it happen and the person goes through paranoia.
  19. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    To be honest, I kind of feel sorry for people like this - I think a lot of the time the attention seeking behavior is seeking out a need that perhaps wasn't fulfilled earlier in life. I feel like a lot of problems people have as adults are as a result of prior things that haven't been resolved. I know a few people that have had very rough childhoods, with absent parents or emotional abuse, and they are people I would categorize as attention seekers - they love validation, and to be seen as being good or interesting or pretty or popular. I try not to let it bother me and realize that in a lot of cases it is simply an innocent thing rather than anything malicious.
  20. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    Everyone has their own individual reasons for the behavior, but I believe most of them can be lumped into a few different categories. I know someone who was raised to believe she was better than other people. And she REALLY believes it. And so she loves to be the center of attention, and believes she deserves it... even though I almost always end up embarrassed for her.

    Then there are the people who lower their inhibitions when they drink and are suddenly doing table dances on her living room coffee table. Or becomes really loud and boisterous. And of course the boring stories over and over again... None of them worth listening to the first time.

    And then there are the ones who tell the most obvious lies and craves the attention. I knew a girl who, in jr high, claimed New Kids on the Block would be playing at her bday party. Or the girl who had been raped 10 times by 10 different men, and had been pregnant 12 times before she was even 16.

    The girl with low self esteem who inherits a lot of money and thinks she can buy the attention she's been looking for her entire adult life.

    Those are just some of them, too. The more I think about it the more I realize it isn't fair for me to try to speculate on anyone's particular reason.