I think that is a trait than addiction. You need to listen to them if that is what they want instead of arguing. They come to realise that they are not talking mp doing something something sensible.
About attention seekers.. I believe that attention seeking behavior is caused by a feeling of lack. These people are lacking in self love and need to get their love from others in order to feel good about themselves. Everybody I know, including me, suffers from this to some extent. Some people really crave that attention whether it be positive or negative. I tend to get tired of these kinds of people very quickly as they will do anything to get attention. Even if I do get a bit tired of them I always try to accept them as one of my own. They are not aware of their "faulty" behavior so they carry no responsibility for it. So if I should do anything at all, I should gently make them aware of their behavior so they know how other people perceive them.
How would you approach the subject without hurting their feelings really badly? The part of my brain responsible for fact, wit, and subtlety has been asleep for a really long time, so this is one of shortcomings
I knew some people who are very happy when they are always the center of attraction in everything. But the people that surrounds these attention seekers are not all the same. Some do appreciate them and are interested listening to them. While other considered them as actors and actresses in their own drama shows. So it only means that they do not believe and are not satisfied to what they are saying. This kind of behavior may lead to some serious problems if these seeking attention people are only telling lies that might get into conflict with other people beliefs. Actually I feel sorry for them and that kind of behavior will not bring them good rewards in life.
Attention-seekers can be exhausting, but I try not to judge them. There are so many factors that can go into something like this, so many reasons. And I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy a bit of extra attention/validation myself, which I know does come from feeling like I was lacking something for ages. I try to keep whatever tendencies I have in check; not only can they exhaust other people, they’ve gotten me in trouble before.
I think its healthy to enjoy some attention now and again. I think its necessary if you want to live a normal, healthy life. I avoid attention as much as possible. I take extra precautions to not make noise hen I walk, eat, or anything else. I talk too quietly for people to hear because I don't want to attract attention from anyone else in the area. I dress down. And a few other habits that are probably just as annoying. if not more annoying, than being attention seekers. Finding balance is a skill some of us just don't have.
I am actually okay with attention seeker people. If they want to be seen and heard all the time, fine by me. As long as the attention is away from me lol. I have met people like these. I even have friends like this. Wherein, she just talks and talks and talks about herself all day everyday. I just let her. I know she has deep family problems. And if the only way I can help her is by listening, then so be it. I also had an ex who is like this. I figured it is because of his family too. They babied him to much that he just became preoccupied by himself. Even his sister is like that. So I just understood them. I am not the kind who wants attention. I even want it away from me. So those people who want it can have it. They sometimes have reasons why they are like that. Sometimes they do not have reasons. They are just wired like that.
I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but attention seeking behavior really gets on my nerves. Even worse is the people who play into it.
I think most of those attention seekers are mostly narcissistic people. I knew a girl like that on Facebook, she often used Facebook to get all the attention she needed, she was always playing you like a toy. She often tried to manipulate people, specially her friends by praising others while kinda leaving out her other friends. I believe she did that so the other person felt a bit isolated, and would instantaneously try to ''gain her back''.
Wow that girl really is manipulative. I do hope her friends become more attentive to this behavior of hers. If they are really friends they have to confront her and tell her about this issue. This girl also is not a true friend for doing that to her friends. I think she has deeper issues than we know of. She probably likes the feeling of being superior than others.
I think she is a narcissist. Her mother was a narcissist and she shows all the traits of one, narcissists tend to do that kind of things, they love to make others feel down. That girl was such a special case, glad we no longer have contact, I think it's as you said.. she had other issues, deep ones, I think the poor girl was a bit cuckoo. I wish her the best, but I doubt she will ever change. Poor girl, I believe her narcissism will never allow her have deep, happy and meaningful relationships. She just can't help being who she is, I think she can't live without all that attention, making people feel inferior, manipulate their emotions with her actions, etc.
Confronting people who do that sort of thing has a tendency to backfire. You become their #1 enemy, and the meanness is all directed towards you for a while. People need to stop playing into it. As long as she the desired outcome she'll never stop. When people stop giving her that reaction, she'll either stop or move on to someone else.
I do hope someone can change her. I am an optimist so I try to see the positive in all situations lol. Though her mom being a narcissist may have been tough for her too. She probably inherited or followed her mom's actions. I feel sad for people like her as they can never feel satisfied without stepping on other people. I have met a lot of people like this and sometimes, you just want to get away from them. They kind of suck all your positivity.
This brings to mind one person that is really starting to get under a lot of peoples skin. AL Sharpton since the mess with the rebel flag has started everyone, and I do mean everyone is talking about him showing up only when a microphone, and camera crew are around. Some people just need to be seen, and heard to feel important.
Yeah, have you noticed that after spending time with that kind of people you end up feeling depressed? It happened to me, after spending time with her I did feel kinda weird, very low and depressed. Not all the time though, but most of the time, it as always a negative feeling with her though. I guess in the end she was kinda upset because I didn't play her game (she was after me).
Most of these kind of people seem to be very condescending and overall not people whom you'd want to hang out with, so I get pretty tired of them in a short time span if they stay around me for too long. I'd never want to hang out with such people simply because they seem to be very sure about them being superior to us when they clearly know it's not that way and it's never going to happen. We're all equal, but some just don't understand that.
Yes! They really can make people depressed. Good for you that you did not fell into her game. I do know some guys like this too. They make the girl feel ugly and worthless. I have friends like this and even an ex boyfriend with this attitude. I wonder, is this some kind of an abuse?
I realized this too and that is why I had to break up with my past boyfriend. He just belittles me most of the time. He calls me names that are insulting to any woman. He takes note of most of my mistakes and never ever praises me. What hurt more was that with other girls or even his mother, he was not like this. He was only insulting me and not other people. Which really got me thinking that maybe there is something wrong with me? But then I realize, he just do not want me to be with other people that can make me happy. He wants me to be stuck with him in his own rut.
Yeah, it definitely is abuse. It can be classified as verbal or emotional abuse. I'm so sorry you had to go thru that! That sounds awful! I've met that kind of men, I was also with one who did the same. The guy was a jerk, I can't understand how or why I stayed with him for as long as I did! The guy was a total jerk! That kind of men are only half men, they need to belittle the woman they are with to make her feel insecure enough to stick with them. Sometimes they just do it because they are plain jerks. I'm glad you got rid of him! I actually regret having stayed with mine for as long as I did, he was nothing but an abuser and a liar.
I wouldn't really call that an abuse. Well, at least not a deliberate one. They do this because they feel way too great about themselves, but don't necessarily realize they hurt everyone around them. Trust me, if people forgot about those kind of people, they (the narcisisstic people) would have a sparkle and cease to be that way.