Jumping in - like both you and @Coolkidhere
, I was involved with a guy who showed emotionally abusive tendencies very early on, and some narcissistic ones as well. Though weirdly enough, one of the boxes he DIDN’T tick was a need for attention.
His form of verbal abuse may have been more subtle, though; he was a white-knight concern troll whose only way of complimenting me was backhanded and/or condescending. And if I had an opinion of any sort, he immediately needed to shoot it down and point out how my thinking was faulty - even if it turned out he mostly agreed with my opinion! Massive superiority complex, that one had. It was a terribly manipulative way of trying to establish control over me. I was starting to think I was crazy.
Luckily, I’m the sort of person that a colleague of mine says “can’t be molded.” So once I realized what was going on, I dumped the guy’s ass. But even though it only lasted two months, it messed me right up for a while, especially because I come from a background involving years of emotional abuse. I sympathize with both of you for having gone through it, and I’m glad you were able to break free. It’s such a relief when you come out the other side.
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