Yeah, I’ve been casually keeping up with that other thread… people can be so awful once the masks come off. And you are so right about always trusting the gut. It might not always be rational, I know my intuition was firing off a gazillion signals and I didn’t listen because it wasn’t really helping with the whole “feeling crazy” thing - but it’s always right.
I have to say, this all makes me thankful that I tend to get involved with guys who aren’t from here, so they have little or no family here. (Although I have a feeling that guy’s brother, who he’s living with and who might even be a WORSE jerk, thought I was… not the sanest. That’s minor compared to all the stories in the other thread, of course, especially because I can neither confirm nor deny. But I’m still glad I never permanently moved into that place. I shudder to think.) The one time I was involved with a mama’s boy, ages ago, it made me say “Never again.” So I feel for you and the others.
Things like what I’ve been through, and stories like yours and the others, have kind of made me question how much it’s really appropriate to trust someone. You hear so much that trust is so important, and that’s true, but… I guess the real question is why do other people have to make it so difficult to trust them!

The thing that saved me was finally opening up about my concerns to people whom I do trust, but it took me a while. And it’s really tough when you don’t have that, or you feel like you CAN’T share. The latter was my case, at least until I finally did. So I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, it’s great to find a place like this where we can share these things in a fairly anonymous setting, without feeling judged.
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