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Addicted to chatting with women

Discussion in 'Share Your Story Here' started by mayasupernova, Nov 27, 2015.

  1. denart10

    denart10 Member

    It is by definition possible to get addicted to anything that releases dopamine in your brain so that includes chatting with women. I can see this releasing a lot of dopamine in guys, especially chatting with hot women. I don't know to which point it strains his life but if he loses his girlfriend over it, it might be a problem and he could use therapy. Maybe he has a bigger problem to solve (about his confidence or something). I think it is rather this than an addiction.

    If he is older than 30 then this kind of behavior is really weird...
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  2. JonnyMacdonald

    JonnyMacdonald Community Champion

    It's certainly okay.
    Please know the most important thing is that we are here to help you and any potential partners navigate the tough waters of addiction.
  3. mayasupernova

    mayasupernova Active Contributor

    Yup, I know that I am. Also, I met a guy a few days ago. He treats me like no one has ever treated me before; I feel like I am a princess. He opens the doors for me, no matter if it is a car or a restaurant. He makes me laugh, he makes me happy and he often says he would do anything to make me happy. I have no any anxiety, or I don't feel nervous when having him around me, and when he away. He is so trust worthy, honest, open and serious. His parents already know about me, and they even sent gifs for my parents, even though they have not met neither me or my boyfriend yet. I am pretty amazed so far.
    I really honestly hope we would last. I think both me and him deserve some happiness..he was greatly hurt by women in the past too..
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  4. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    I've met people like that, a friend of mine had that problems well. He had a gf, but he had the urge to have sexual chats and even cam sex with complete strangers. He was also addicted to porn. Not a coincidence at all! Glad you found out before it was too late!
  5. listenlucy

    listenlucy Member

    I came across this forum thru google using the subject matter "addictive behavior by men who chat online". I want to say that I recently went thru the same thing the young lady who started this post did. Two years ago, my husband of 15 yrs decided to become emotionally involved in chat sessions with online dating with russian and ukranian women. These sites are well known to be spam and you pay to talk to these women. That is not an excuse. It took quite a lot of work and I thought we had resolved his issues with doing things like this and a month ago I discovered he was doing it again. I have always said that he has an addictive personality. Whatever he gets involved with? He does to the extent of being overboard. Whether it was playing video games when he broke his hip and had to stay immobile for weeks, or his business which he runs very successfully--workaholic, or when he felt he was not getting enough attention (for whatever reason---because he honestly controls that by working all the time--I work equally as hard but realize we need time together and try to plan it---he breaks our plans or ignores them). Whatever this dating site addiction he has is? It has cost me being able to trust him. I have read all the letters he wrote to the multiple women he was seeing---live chat, correspondence photos, 2 way video chat, ect. and the things he said to them---"you're beautiful, you are so intelligent, your body is perfect" ect is hurtful and damaged my ego and my life to the point I am not sure I want to stay married to someone who can not control themselves. He thrived for that daily ego boost (even though they are paid to say the right things....). I have told him that I am done unless he seeks counseling for the addiction of needing that dopamine fix. I believe emotional cheating is the same as physical cheating and cheating is a choice, not a mistake we make like breaking a mirror. What are the odds that he will be honest and not cheat? I do not know. But I will NOT go through this hell again. The first time changed my life and he took two years of my life away and I thought we were past it, just to do it all over again a month ago. I truly believe that an addiction, any addiction, whether it is drugs, or whatever has to addressed and just as serious to each person no matter what the addiction is from because of the effect it has not only on him, but on the people involved in their life. Thank you for letting me vent about this. I am far from over the hump. But I can assure you THIS IS THE LAST TIME I WILL BE TREATED LIKE THIS.. ;)
  6. True concern

    True concern Moderator

    The most logical,reasonable,researched opinion on this topic yet.Listen Even though this is BRILLIANT,STILL YET AT TIME'S A PERSON CAN BE DEEPER THAN THE INTERNET I WOULD ONLY ADD...ASK YOURSELF HOW DO"YOU"TRULY REMEMBER THE INDIVIDUAL?
  7. True concern

    True concern Moderator

    Message @Will_ His feeling's are hurt because i told him i could crush the site!Nah Fuc* That build it UP I'llFind you ALL
  8. buratinos

    buratinos Member

    Hello! I agree with what has been said above. Anything that brings you pleasure can become addictive. Actually, when I think about it I remember how hooked I got to video chat. I could watch PornMotion for hours on end. Back then it gave me a new level of interaction with girls besides teasing each other and being afraid to show that I liked them. So yes I was addicted to it because it was making me happy. And it wasn't because of the fact that they would undress in front of the camera which was a huge bonus :).
    Last edited: Sep 24, 2020