I would like to point out that addiction is a lifelong condition. There is always a potential for relapse, the cravings are always there. Even after decades, a person and slip and need to start from the beginning again. Addicts need to choose to quit, and those around them need to choose whether or not to stay in the addict's life. Be sure to educate yourself before making such a choice. It is possible for addicts to get clean and stay clean, but it is also possible that the addiction will become what it once was. It is very hard for trust to be rebuilt during recovery. Although you may love the addict, convincing yourself he/she will always be clean can do some serious damage to your own mental health. If you choose to stay with an addict in recovery, then you must be willing to fully understand the situation and be prepared for what do do if a relapse should occur. Have an action plan if need be. If a relapse occurs, you have the right to feel mad, betrayed, disappointed---but at the same time, you need to understand that you chose to stay, knowing this is a possibility. Create limits, know what you are willing to accept or not accept. And do not set yourself up for a fall by believing it is "over".