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Addiction is for Life

Discussion in 'Helping an Addicted Loved One' started by LostmySis, Oct 27, 2014.

  1. soconfused

    soconfused Member

    This seems so true in the light of everything I've read til date about addiction, and after observing my little brother. This is what scares me when it comes to him quitting. In the past he has gone a whole month without it until he just can't find peace anywhere and has to go back to his drug of choice to feel happy and warm inside. It makes me feel as though even if he were to stay sober for a long time, all it'd take is for one horrible incident and he'll relapse.
  2. Gelsemium

    Gelsemium Community Champion

    True, it's long term and when life is bad for us consuming might pop back from the back of our head that is why it's so important to be strong and clean and have clear goals.
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  3. monsterific

    monsterific Member

    This is more of a realistic view and I agree, it was my choice to stick with my sister and be the support that she needs to stay clean... Although in the past she's been on and off with her addiction. Frustrating, true and it still is. But I tried to be patient and understanding.. Still there whenever she needed someone. I'm still hoping that the person I once knew, and loved will re-surface. Drugs affected her psychological state but I'm were still hopeful that she will in time be able to stay sober for longer periods of time.
  4. juno

    juno Community Champion

    It is so true that once you are an addict, just because you have recovered doesn't mean it's over. Your life has to change because there is always a chance of relapse and you are an addict. It is a longterm struggle in which every circumstance in life has to be carefully trenched. For example, every celebration or party you go to is a reminder and a test to your resistance and strength if you are a recovered alcoholic.
  5. Gelsemium

    Gelsemium Community Champion

    That's right, that is why we need to build a new life around something solid and that something solid is ourselves, we need to surround ourselves with good things and not things that might lead us back to the addiction.
  6. LitoLawless

    LitoLawless Senior Contributor

    I truly believe that addiction is a lifelong struggle. It doesn't end when you come out of rehab, or when you finally decide to quit. It's just as easy (if not easier) to slip back into your vices just as easy as it is to say "I quit." You have to prove that you are stronger than your addiction every day of your life.
  7. jeremy2

    jeremy2 Community Champion

    Can't agree more on that one. A certain air hostess from our home area was nabbed for drug trafficking.She was being used as a mule.After 8 years in the slummer,she came out as a reformed person and was all over the news recanting her ordeal as a mule.After about 2 years later,she was found unconscious in some street in Italy after a pellet she had ingested burst.
  8. Mackmax

    Mackmax Active Contributor

    I disagree. Addiction can be beaten, and can stay beaten. There is a possibility that the person could relapse, but let us keep in mind that just because an ex-alcoholic has a drink at a party does not mean he is relapsing. He is now enjoying his drink without being addicted, because he was regained his self-control. There are possibilities that someone who has been sober for years can sink back into addiction, but that is just possibility, and there are plenty of possibilities. Also, just because it is possible, does not mean that it is probable.
  9. Gelsemium

    Gelsemium Community Champion

    I really don't know about that Mack... If I was an alcoholic I would not touch a drop of alcohol again in my life, that is for sure, I would not take the chance, why would I?
  10. EK4007

    EK4007 Member

    I agree, my husband has been alcohol sober for over 20 years (that we are aware of). But in the last 10 years he has just changed his drug of choice. I believe it is a choice. He has an addictive behaviour so it has been one thing after another, gambling, credit cards, internet, sex-online, phone sexting, pain killers, drugs. He likes being that out of control, free spirit that no one tells him what to do. I believe he did many of those bad behaviours out of spite. He has since gone to drug rehab because it was affecting his job. We are not together and will not be. I have to save what little I have of my life and dignity left.
  11. Jimmy Loc

    Jimmy Loc Member

    Between the severity of the addiction, some addictions become life long ones. This is due to the damage done on the biochemistry of the body and ones own choice, depending strength in willpower one may still overcome. Although one may or may not recover as easy as other cases. For instance with less addictive drugs merely forgetting about the particular substance can be effective, or replacing its use with productivity can be just as effective if not more. Addiction is a burden, yet addictions may last lifetimes if not persevered against.
  12. KNH

    KNH Active Contributor

    I think that's true. Temptations are everywhere and I think if a person doesn't have enough willpower to resist it, they can certainly relapse. A lot of it is mental.