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Addiction to Beauty?

Discussion in 'Other Substances' started by gracer, Apr 30, 2015.

  1. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    In this modern world, anyone can be beautiful if they want to. Plastic surgeons and dermatologists are everywhere, and almost everyone has access to instant beauty if they want some of it. I know someone who's so obsessed with plastic surgery and staying young forever. She has already spent a fortune with her regular trips to the cosmetic clinic. I couldn't count how many nose lifts and botox she has gone through. Plus the continuous desire to get whiter each time. Her reason - she has the money and she can do anything she wants with it. She says that those who criticize her just don't have the money to spend on beauty as much as she does.

    For me, this is a case of severely low self-esteem and lack of contentment. I still believe in making good of whatever it is that has been given to you. Natural beauty shines when a person learns to accept who he/she is.

    Do you know anyone who has the same obsession with being beautiful and perfect?
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  2. vegito12

    vegito12 Community Champion

    I have a couple of relatives mostly women who want to look younger when the body is not and, getting it done by artificial means is not good as there could be risks or side affects and in the news you hear it all the time as well. Some people do believe changing skin colour is going to make them more acceptable although it can happen but later on the body may not be able to handle it and the money used is wasted in something like this. I wander, why people do it as it is not guaranteed to work and also can only work for some time and not forever should not do it.
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  3. Charli

    Charli Community Champion

    I think any obsession is derived from a form of void in their heart that is very hard to fix so easy solutions become a lot more attractive to them than to the average person. As for addiction to beauty, I think some people are just very passionate about it but you're right some people do go overboard. I think culture and media might be partially to blame but in the end it will always be the decision of the individual whether they would let it affect them or not.
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  4. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    @vegito12 One thing I have noticed with people who go through so much cosmetic change is that they all look alike in the end. It's as if they have this kind of signature look and it doesn't really look nice because it looks so artificial. I don't know if you've noticed it but they have this poker face look on them. Sometimes when I look at them more closely, there's even some hint of deformity somewhere on their faces. Don't get me wrong but it's something I've just noticed from the people I see.

    @Charli You're absolutely right in saying that they have an inner void. Maybe going through changes on their physical self helps them fill that emptiness they feel inside. I just hope they know the limits of what they do because in the long run it can get damaging and even detrimental to them. Being passionate about beauty is one thing, being overly obsessed about it is a different story.
  5. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    Ah, this is really really a difficult one to answer, but it's such a deep topic and an interest of mine. I think that today because of pressure and the media, and how it gives out certain messages to people, it's just gone in the wrong direction completely and I think it's very important to be cautious of what teenagers and kids are exposed to these days. I know for sure that beauty is vain and it's very important to realize that what the media, celebrities or TV might consider as beauty, that's not really it. Beauty is something that is mostly inward, and it will be expressed outward, but also it depends on other people. There's people who find others beautiful and people who don't, but the people who find one type as beautiful, could in fact be brainwashed into the media and the obsession with weight, make up and all that crap. I've seen an article recently, criticizing UK Prime Ministers wife, Sam Cam, and it was really disgusting. They were commenting on her feet and how it needs pedicure, I can't believe they've gone to that level. After all, I would recommend anyone struggling with this, to free their mind of media, news, celebrities and TV, as well as movies for a while. It really would help.
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  6. RingoBerry

    RingoBerry Senior Contributor

    I've seen a documentary about a woman who was so addicted to plastic surgery. She's had so many procedures done to her face that her own child doesn't even know her any more - and her own mother was pretty much heart broken asking why would she go through such lengths to alter the appearance her parents have given her. Its kind of sad really if you think about it.
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  7. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    @kylerlittle That story regarding an article commenting negatively about the PM's wife is absolutely absurd. I mean, why do they even have to comment about small things such as her feet? The media is really a big influencing factor when it comes to setting standards when it comes to beauty. And sometimes the standards they set are hard to meet by an ordinary individual which leads to low self esteem and self-acceptance.

    @RingoBerry That is one sad story. If the child cannot recognize the parent anymore, it means she has really been through a lot of surgeries.
  8. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    @gracer absolutely. I think it's sick and I'm glad there's common sense, I don't believe everyone has common sense, hence, it's the reason it's called common sense because it's common but not necessarily full of it. I guess a lot of what's going on in the media and things that influence teenagers and lead them to low self esteem and do absolutely anything to change their image, is sick. I believe it should be illegal.
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  9. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    I do know some of those celebrities who are obviously done too much cosmetic surgery for themselves. True that too much of it is considered as addiction already. That could also cause them side effects or life being in danger.
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  10. Matthodge1

    Matthodge1 Community Champion

    I know people who constantly drown themselves in makeup and Botox, so I am fully aware of how damaging and real beauty is. I think it is because we are in the age of narcissism due to the smart phones.
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  11. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    That's absolutely true. They might not see it for the first few years, but it will happen.
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  12. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Better if those who have plans on having total makeover kind of surgery should learn from those who already been on such situation. They should be very much aware of the consequences.
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  13. keekz38

    keekz38 Member

    With the way our society is today, addiction to beauty is normal. Not only in women but in men too. people go through great lengths to preserve and enhance their beauty with plastic surgery, makeup and so many other things.
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  14. Smarty

    Smarty Active Contributor

    Well, we all like seeing beauty, right? Of course it is highly subjective and as the saying goes "in the eyes of the beholder". However, personally for me, something which isn't real... something which is artificially made, not natural... it just can't be beautiful. No matter how perfect a shape has been achieved. Beauty is not perfection. So any kind of obsession with it is unhealthy, I think.
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  15. katherine25

    katherine25 Senior Contributor

    I've seen people who are addicted to plastic surgery. It usually starts off with something small like a nose job and they see how much a small difference can make in their appearance that they decide to change the next thing small about themselves that they don't like and next thing you know, you don't recognize them anymore! I blame the pressure that society puts on appearance and body expectations. Its really sad that we have gotten to this but I don't think things will ever change.
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  16. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    Oh, I know a girl like this...and she's only in her 20's! She was a super fresh faced pretty girl beforehand - but now she has breast implants, teeth veneers, collagen lips, Botox in her face and just looks all around like a cartoon - I have no idea what prompted her to do it, either. She's only an acquaintance of another friend so I don't know her well, but it just astounds me that people will do all of this to themselves in the name of beauty. We all age, and I think there's a beauty to doing so gracefully!
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  17. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    That's actually how the person I know started on her addiction. She started on a single nose job then before I knew it, she suddenly had the urge to change every single thing she didn't like with her appearance.I'm now beginning to wonder how worst it will get in the future. I hope people won't go as far as imposing changes on even young children just because they don't like something about their appearance. Society can be so harsh sometimes.
  18. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    I feel so sad for that girl. What a wasted beauty she is now. I think everyone of us have our own unique beauty that cannot be given to us by any plastic surgery or implant. We just have to learn how to embrace and take care of what has been given to us and our beauty will surely shine. Even our imperfections can be turned into assets if we only know how to deal with them. Look at Cindy Crawford, instead of having her facial mole removed it actually served as her signature look which made her shine above the rest of her mates. I too believe in natural beauty and in aging gracefully. :)
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  19. Smarty

    Smarty Active Contributor

    I really can't quite understand that very well. Maybe it has something to do with me but how is this plastic look supposed to be "beautiful"... It's not natural. It's not real. What do you prefer to eat? A tomato from the village with an awkward shape but a wonderful real tomato taste or a perfectly shaped genetically modified tomato tasting like rubber?
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  20. Clairelouise84

    Clairelouise84 Senior Contributor

    I see a lot of people on the TV in those documentaries that are like this and they always used to be so beautiful. One of my favourite shows in this genre is "snog marry avoid" All of these girls (and some guys) are totally obsessed with looking "beautiful" but in reality they look god awful and should not have done any of the things they did in the first place!
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