Hopeful to get some insight on best ways to handle my situation. I have addiction in my family my brother who i was very close with died of a heroin overdose he battled the addiction for years. My other brother battles alcohol addiction. My sister and i are fine no addiction issues. My husband and his family have no addiction issues. Fast forward to my direct situation. My son had a drinking episode when he was 15 to the point where we took him to the hospital. We montitored him all through high school and no additional problems with drinking. He admitted to trying marjauana when he was 18 in the spring of his senior year. He complied to random checking all the rest of the spring/summer and promised he tried it and wouldnt be doing it again. He admitted it to us upon talking about drugs ( we had a feeling he may had tried it hence why we asked) We had heard a friend of his was a user so we suspected he may have. He was good no alcohol or marjauna and we let him go off to college and we talked and talked about everything under the sun before he left. and about how bad behaviour would ruin his future.........my family history etc... He decided to smoke marjuana wax and had a very bad reaction. Hence we pulled him from school after only one month away. He resumed school locally commuting and is doing well and is working 3 days a week and school the other 2. He had alot of restitution cost him all his saved money because of fines at the college. My question to you all is he is 19 i cant control what he does every waking moment. I do feel his is regretful and he spends all his free time now with his sister who is 20 and us his parents . We watch movies on friday and saturday nights ........he hasnt been out in 6 months other than school or work. I know he isnt using drugs or alcohol currently and he has 5 years he has to stay out of trouble. My fear is when his friends all come home from college. What do we do .........he is 19 ........Can i say you dont hang with them ? I want to and if I do he will comply but at the same rate I want to let him rebuild trust .......my heart says he doesnt hang with them in the evenings. He is planning to join a mens league sports team where some of his old friends will play. I am tempted to allow that but i just dont know how to handle it. I dont want to make a mistake here on how to handle this. Any advice would be appreciated.