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Al-Anon?

Discussion in '12-Step Support Groups' started by thedino89, Feb 12, 2015.

  1. thedino89

    thedino89 Member

    I am currently in the process, or perhaps more accurately, avoiding being in the process of handling the Fentanyl addiction my brother has. He has been out of in-patient rehab for some time and seems to be making slow steps forward in regaining my family's trust and relationships. I, myself, have been struggling with letting him try to make amends to me. I am a horrible mess anytime I think about him and his addiction. My family attends Al-Anon and tells me it is a good resource to help cope, yet I can not find myself to go. Can anyone give me a reason to go that has experience? Or, perhaps some other outlet to help myself heal?
  2. MyDigitalpoint

    MyDigitalpoint Community Champion

    Didn't see this question before, but is worth to answer it because someone else might be in need of this information too.

    I'm not sure if Al-Anon provides support for families who have members struggling with medication or drug, more likely for alcoholics, but there are similar organizations you can look at for family support.

    In the UK, it's likely AdFam where to look at, http://www.adfam.org.uk/ or http://famanon.org.uk/

    In the USA there are several organization I could name including these:

    https://ncadd.org/for-friends-and-family
    http://www.drugabuse.gov/patients-families
    http://www.addictionsandrecovery.org/families-and-addiction.htm
    http://www.nar-anon.org/

    This latter offers get you in touch with support groups around the world.
  3. Adrianna

    Adrianna Community Champion

    Wow that's a good one. I've been feeling like I need to go to something like this. Even though it is not our problem it really does affect you. My Mom has a problem with pills and alcohol.
    A friend of mine goes because her husband is an alcoholic. I think it has helped her a great deal. Probably just being able to have people to relate to that go through something similar. Basically how much it hurts you and affects you needs a place to go. When someone else can validate your emotions, feelings, and troubles. It makes you feel good. My friend met a guy there that his wife is the alcoholic and they became friends. Having coffee and talking after the group was together. She actually seemed much happier after engaging in this. Not as angry or frustrated.
  4. EditorsRHumansToo!

    EditorsRHumansToo! Community Champion

    Hi @thedino89 Just passing through the threads. I've read your post about your brother/bestfriend. And looked for you in the Members. How are you? How have you been since? I do hope that your brother has found his healing and reconciliation with loved ones. You might miss this "How are you"greetings. But I do hope you and loved ones are okay? Prayers and caring thoughts your way, Friend.
  5. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    My son struggled with heroin addiction for several years. Al-Anon was a welcome resource to help my wife and I feel like we weren't alone. It was comforting to be among people who were going through similar experiences as us. My wife will tell you that Al-Anon saved her life.
  6. Hyperion

    Hyperion Active Contributor

    I've heard very good things about Al-Anon, and it never hurts to try something once. You will appease your family in the process, and hopefully learn something. What is your relationship like with your brother? Even if it is not good now, I bet deep-down he will appreciate you going. I wish my family acted as much as they spoke when they nagged me incessantly about my issues.
  7. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    Where I live there was a group entirely targeted at the relatives of alcoholics. It was one of the best groups ever, the most friendly, warm, honest and sincere group f people. Very kind and polite. I'm sure there has to be a group targeted at the relatives of people who use drugs as well. You just need to look around, specially if you are in the US. There has to ge a group targeted at people like you, where you guys can talk about your experiences and feelings, the burden of loving someone with an addiction.
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  8. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Tremmie... That sounds like an amazing group. How wonderful that you found it! And Al-Anon is like any other group: you likely will have to try different meetings before you find one that's a good fit for you.