I was thinking more about this, after I got an email invitation to a spouse get together for my husband's work. One of the spouses proposed a night to do a wine tasting - now I know for a lot of people that's not a problem, but for a recovered alcoholic going to something like that is about the last social activity I want to do. How do those of you in the same sort of situation handle this? It's not like it's a "go out and get wasted" invitation, it seems to be billed as a classy, elegant affair - but still, I don't want to drink. These spouses don't know about my past, either (they're acquaintances rather than friends) so quite honestly I'm thinking about just saying I can't make it. It's just hard to me when people think alcohol is used as a social thing like this - it's one thing going out for a meal and simply saying "I'm not drinking, thanks!" but when the actual activity is centered around alcohol it makes it tough.