From a former experience, I can tell you that being with a person that is an alcoholic and binge drinks is torture. I can recollect being with a person that began to hide their drinking soon after it was established that it was causing problems in the relationship. It had become evident that he had some problems going on when we argued about his behaviors after nights of drinking. The personality changes and the odd behavioral activity were all too much to bare. (There was never any abuse towards me though. thank goodness!) Afterwards he constantly claimed that he would quit because he did not want to lose the family; next it was said that he had not had any drinks in days, but a few days of not drinking led to binge drinking. Soon after that ordeal was over, I got a little happy that I was not seeing him drink at all anymore. I was thinking maybe he is being truthful and was stopping without help. But odd behavior was still apparent, including mood changes and pink eyes. So the person I am just sit back and observed . During cleaning the bedroom, living room and kitchen: I would run up on mini bottles tucked everywhere in the house, Oh my Goodness! Then I realized that the alcohol we had put up for guest, had been filled with water!! all Lie, Lies, Lies! We parted for a while soon after that, but I cared for him and felt that that was harsh and besides he had decided to go to rehab for a month. Soon after that he went to alcohol rehab and we never hed to chance to get back together after that, because a week later he got a DUI, that was the last straw for me, but it was all a horrible experience. Do not get me wrong though,I just did not give up on him overnight!I loved him and gave him 7 years worth of chances, but then I realized I just could not do it any longer! The alcohol had killed the relationship.