My father is an alcoholic. He is not seeking help and does not admit to a problem. When he is sober he is fine but when he isn't it is a disaster. We do not have a good relationship yet he has complained to my sister and my husband that I am keeping my kids away from him so that he doesn't see them and they don't know him. He is right. That is exactly what I am doing. I don't want them to feel things I felt when I was young. My husband and sister tend to feel sorry for him and think I am being hard and unforgiving.