There is not a one solution fits all answer. Many folks can tell you to just walk away yet is not that simple when you care about someone. I have witnessed alcohol and drugs destroy many lives and relationships. There is one thing for sure if he denies having an issue and does not want to stop drinking there is no way to convince them otherwise. There is no magic pill, no AA, no 12 step or any other step program, not a million dollar alcohol treatment resort that will help them unless they admit they have a problem and “want” help. It is so hard but essential for your health and well being to NOT let his problem control your life and thinking or it will also destroy you. You could give him a choice it is you or the alcohol 9 out of 10 alcoholics will just watch you walk away because they care more about the alcohol than they care about anyone or anything else. It is an awful disease that consumes their entire soul. I agree with most of the folks in here you must think of yourself first that could mean losing him to keep you from losing yourself and your mind. At this point in your life “his problem” is “your problem” and it will consume you, your mind and break your spirit if you let it; it is essential that you do not let it. You are the only one that can make that decision. Best wishes on making a tough decision and the one that is right for you.