I was kind of talking about this in another thread about late night phone calls, but it is really weighing heavily on my heart. Do you think when you keep forgiving someone and let them back into your life when they relapse, you are condoning, or worse yet, promoting their behavior? I am wondering, how others have dealt with just closing the door on a loved one or friend. This whole idea of tough love, literally tears at my heart. Were you able to justify your decision to completely turning your back on someone? It would be nice to hear about you making this difficult choice and the end result turned out to be good. Like the person, actually recovered. Quite frankly, it scares me. I feel like it would be my fault is they could not "make it" and I was somehow to blame because I walked away.