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Anger and Violence

Discussion in 'General Substance Abuse Discussion' started by tasha, Feb 17, 2016.

  1. tasha

    tasha Community Listener Community Listener

    Sometimes we are aggressive without knowing it and the people that suffer are our children, family and spouses who cannot handle it. They do try to understand but we have to realise that the behaviour that drugs and alcohol produce is of our own doing and those around us that wish for peace pray for you to come back to earth. So for those who have stopped a habit... congratulations!!!!!!!! that is a huge step and those who are in recovery and feel that they have no idea why they are having outbursts or aggressive behaviour, this is normal for your brain to begin to find balance somewhere along the line and it takes time but be patient and allow your family in so that they can understand why you are doing what you are doing.
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  2. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    Anger doesn't simply erupt out of nowhere. Sometimes people use drugs so they can be able to express feelings which they've kept bottled up but since some drugs can make some people extremely violent it's best for someone who knows there's something annoying them they should deal with it when they are sober because if they do maybe when they're "high" on drugs they won't need to express their anger then because some really bad things could happen.
  3. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    I think the use of drugs and alcohol give people the "permission" they need to unleash those more primitive or anti social behavior they have stored up in their being. That is why it is dangerous to those that have those kinds of emotions bottled up. I mean we can all get angry, but some just seem to have that at the core of their being, and the SA releases it.
  4. tasha

    tasha Community Listener Community Listener

    chemical imbalances can cause anger, aggression, mood swings and feelings of despair which results in depression and many other problems after you have given up on the substance that you were taking. You need to understand that this has taken a toll on your body and recovery is not an easy road but it is a road that is worth taking
  5. remnant

    remnant Community Champion

    It is tenuous to describe substance abuse as a victimless crime. It affects others because drugs induce emotional imbalance through the psychoactive elements in them. Violent crimes continue unabated courtesy of people under influence of drugs.
  6. Nancy D.

    Nancy D. Senior Contributor

    If our children are witnessing this type of behavior...they are the true sufferers. When a child is in an early age they soak up everything they see and are very vulnerable in their thinking. Children are not to be put in situations like this and expected to be normal fun loving just does something to their pure spirit.
  7. Coolkidhere

    Coolkidhere Community Champion

    When we're under the influence of drugs or alcohol, we cannot think clearly. Our minds are in haze and confusion, and we might do things that we don't usually do. We might hurt people we love, our wives, our children, our parents or even our friends. And the sad thing is, once it's done, we cannot undo it.

    Don't risk hurting the people you love, physically or verbally. Be sober and clean and you will be thinking and acting rationally. Think about the people around you, just how much they will be hurt with your addiction.
  8. Nancy D.

    Nancy D. Senior Contributor

    I think life in general can change a person depending on who you are. Addictions affect different people in different ways and should be treated on an individual basis. What works for my sister, may not work for my brother. I think this can cause frustrations and emotions that can cause conflicts within the family. It is tough when you feel like you have to go it alone. Many people act out these emotions using fear and anger, which can turn into violence.
  9. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    Drugs can make a person do violent things, since they make them act out of character. People even commit crimes while under the influence of drugs, so their relatives must really distance themselves from that person when that happens. That's why people should not even try drugs in the first place. It will only ruin their lives.
  10. 6up

    6up Community Champion

    Most people turn violent when they become drunk. They get angry easily when they are not satisfied with whatever they have or want. Others end up breaking utensils and all the windows, only to realise when they become sober. Some end up getting injured when they try to fight their friends. I have heard of angry alcoholics who end up taking poison. To stop the anger, we should completely avoid getting drunk.
  11. Vinaya

    Vinaya Community Champion

    I have seen many people who became angry and violent when they were drunk. These types of people slowly become outcast even in the alcoholic groups and they later resort to drink alone, mostly in their home. Now their wife and children become their target.
  12. anorexorcist

    anorexorcist Community Champion

    I definitely have a thing with anger, I get stressed really easily and when that happens I just don't listen and I lock in my own little world and I don't hear anybody's opinion... And you have no idea how much that behavior have damage a lot of people around me... Sometimes we need to sit and think about that, even if there's nothing to do now we still can ask for forgiveness and try to not act like that again.
  13. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    You sound a lot like me - I still struggle sometimes with expressing my emotions, and often angry outbursts from me are just masks for frustration, stress, disappointment - and sometimes once I'm angry it's like I can only sleep it off or get out of the house for a while, it's difficult for me to just snap out of it. It's a big reason why I knew I needed to stop drinking back when I did, though - because alcohol and emotions like that just don't mix well, amongst the other issues that alcohol presents.
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  14. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    People who cannot seem to control their anger have unresolved deep-seated issues. Until they get to the root of their anger and learn how to forgive themselves, they'd easily react and burst when things don't go their way or remind them of a past they wanted to forget. Forgiveness, an optimistic mindset and focusing your energies on helping other can contain one's anger.
  15. sillylucy

    sillylucy Community Champion

    I try to control my anger because I know I can get pretty violent really quickly. When I was a kid I didn't know how to control my anger and I would lash out at my family. I would punch my sister and she would punch me back. I would even beat up my younger, male cousins. It was pretty bad. Now I put that energy into working out.
  16. oraclemay

    oraclemay Community Champion

    This is true. Anger never solved any problems and it is much better to stay calm and do things in a patient and understanding manner if you want a successful outcome, without hurting any feelings or isolating others. If you are always angry, people will avoid you and even those who love you may eventually leave you.
  17. Mara

    Mara Community Champion

    Drugs and alcohol can really alter our behavior. And for some, they don't need these substances to be aggressive. Take me for example, I admit that I have a very short fuse. But one thing I've learned is that I need to control my emotions, my anger because when I'm angry I tend to hurt myself, and the people around me both physically and verbally.
  18. SashaS

    SashaS Community Champion

    It is one of the unfortunate results of drug abuse. My step father was a very angry person and constantly shouted at my mother and sister when I was a kid and emotionally and physically abused them. I vowed to never speak to him again and because of his selfish ways and disrespect for the most important women in his life, I bought my mother and sister their own homes, away from him and he now lives alone and will die alone for what he has done. He once beat our dog to death out of pure rage, that I have never forgiven him for. Showing hatred towards others is a horrible thing to do and can definitely ruin lives.

    With drugs, it is sometimes not the user's choice, they can do it unintentionally and then regret it afterwards. I guess the only real way to prevent it is to not take drugs but of course that's easier said than done. Its just one of those things that we have to remember when faced with a choice of whether to take drugs or not. Consider what effect your life decisions will have on not only yourself but those around you.
  19. djolem

    djolem Senior Contributor

    Anger is almost always driven by some inner and very deep feelings that keep locked up until we start drinking usually. In vino veritas. It is the truth and I am lucky to be very cheerful when tipsy or even wasted. If I am not cheerful then I am depressed but never aggressive or violent but I know many people who were. My cousin's father was very aggressive when we were kids. He was abusing his wife, the children.
  20. Fyrion

    Fyrion Active Contributor

    I also think is mostly due to substance influence. Anger, euphoria, depression, angish, panic, anxiety etc. The imbalance a drug induces in your body will make your emotions blow and breakdown.