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Anxiety Attacks?

Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by Vinaya, Apr 6, 2016.

  1. Vinaya

    Vinaya Community Champion

    After the loss of pregnancy, my wife is experiencing anxiety attacks once a day,usually in the morning. The anxiety attacks are so severe that it looks like she is having heart attack. How can we deal with anxiety attacks.
  2. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

  3. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    When I am having an anxiety attack I try to get out and go for a walk. I just need to get away from the setting to have some time on my own. I also do my best to breath my way through it and try to stay calm even though it is not always easy to do. Does she take any medication for her anxiety?
  4. jackiewbu

    jackiewbu Member

    In the middle of a panic attack it feels as if you cant breath and you overheat like crazy. My advice to you is if you can't stop the anxiety try to make it slightly easier to deal with. Open a window, make her nice and cold with fresh air, this will help her catch her breath. Sometimes she may just need to cry and let everything out and the relief comes soon after. If all else fails talk to your doctor about the extremity of the matter
  5. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    I'm so sorry for that loss, Vinaya - I think depending on the level of anxiety she may need medication for a while. I would highly highly recommend grief counseling too, if you think she would be open to that. Sometimes being able to just talk about the pain of the loss helps overcome some of the anxiety surrounding it.
  6. Coolkidhere

    Coolkidhere Community Champion

    Hi! First of all, I am very sorry for your loss. Have you looked into consulting a therapist or counsellor? The loss of the baby might be too much for her so she might need some professional's help to deal with the loss. You can even find websites online which provide a list of renowned specialists all over the world. Try looking into

    Next, she can also trying exercising. Getting active and especially cardio exercises can pump your heart and release endorphins. These endorphins can actually release some tension and anxiety that a person feels. After a workout, I always feel happier and lighter.

    Help her connect with friends. Having emotional support can actually lessen the burden of the pain. The more people she can talk to, the more that the anxiety can be lessened. Make sure that these are people that she actually loves and cares for.

    Does she have any other hobby that she might enjoy? Maybe take her on a trip to reduce her stress. Or maybe eat out or watch a movie as well. These can surely make her feel special and less anxious.

    She can also try doing yoga or meditation or even breathing exercises. These can help lessen the anxiety that she is feeling as well.
  7. Noreht

    Noreht Active Contributor

    The best way to deal with this kind of issue is to address the source of the attack. In a way you are lucky that you know why she is getting the attacks. What you need to do is to take her to someone whit which she can discuss why the loss of the baby is making her anxious. It could be that she now feels that she won't be able to have a baby again, if you for instance can then adress this issue the attacks should lessen and eventually go away.
  8. Rosyrain

    Rosyrain Community Champion

    You really have to work hard to focus your mind on something else when you are having an anxiety attack. Medications should only be used for people who suffer the worst from anxiety. Is there something your wife is extremely interested in? A hobby perhaps, favorite movies or shows? Encourage her to get enthralled in something she is highly interested in when she feels a panic attack coming on and this should distract those feelings some.
  9. OHelloMe

    OHelloMe Active Contributor

    I hate anxiety. I'll get into these panic attacks where it literally feels like I'm dying, but its the same story over and over again so I've stopped freaking out over it. Basically I get tingly, my heart rate skyrockets and I'll even get a bit dizzy. It is the worst thing ever. I've been able to overcome it a little with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Also, mindfulness meditation or distraction techniques can help.
  10. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    While there are plenty of ways that can be used to cope with anxiety when it gets to be overwhelming one needs medication to deal with it. There's always that fear that that person could become dependent on drugs but when nothing else helps, medication and some therapy will.

    All the best.
  11. Noreht

    Noreht Active Contributor

    I have had to resort to taking medication for my anxiety attacks. I am on 10 mg Lexamil. It works quite well and I use it to help stem the tide of the attacks while I receive therapy for the root cause of my anxiety. The problem is that even a drug as light as Lexamil has side effects and can be addictive so it is a catch 22 and the use of drugs should be evaluated on a per case basis.
  12. What a horrible loss and I am very familiar with it. She needs medication for those attacks and needs to see a therapist. Anxiety attacks are no joke, you feel like you cant breath, your hot, you feel like you might die.. these things cannot always be controlled. There have been many instances where people have gone to the hospital because of severe anxiety or panic attacks. I am so the pot calling the kettle black with these things because I also need medication for anxiety, depression, being bipolar. I haven't gone to get it because I have am scared of people and have phone anxiety which frustrates my husband even more. Maybe you can offer to call or come with it would be helpful?
  13. anorexorcist

    anorexorcist Community Champion

    Im really sorry about your loss... I just commented on another thread that you made and I'll say it again, lol. You can look for therapist near to you that have experience with anxiety attacks. There's a lot of people who don't really "believe" in therapy and I agree that is not for everybody, but if you haven't tried it yet, I think that you should, you have anything to lose.
    Good luck!
  14. bhu

    bhu Active Contributor

    I'm so sorry for your loss, @Vinaya. I have been there with miscarriage. A little aromatherapy might be helpful to her at this difficult time. If she's not allergic, you could put some lavender, rose and peppermint oils - just a tiny bit of each - on her pillowcase before bed. You can also place them in a roller bottle with some base oil, like extra virgin olive oil or vegetable oil if that's all you have. Then she can gently roll this on her wrists, temples and heart before and after her anxiety attacks to encourage serenity. Counseling, support groups and yoga may also be useful. Best wishes to you and your wife on getting through this challenging time, @Vinaya.
  15. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    I just want to clarify. Was there a miscarriage or could your wife no longer bear children? Nevertheless, my sincere sympathies for what you went through. They say women on the throes pregnancy are prone to depression but I can't imagine how even more depressing it is for your wife. Perhaps after you've consulted with a professional, you can both spend some time elsewhere to relax and heal.
  16. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    Is your wife on any current medications that might be causing this? I know for myself, when I was taking the birth control pill I suffered anxiety attacks. Once I stopped taking it the attacks stopped. So it is possible that their might be a medical reason for these attacks. I will tell you what helped me during the time I was having the attacks. since they are very frightening, like you are having a heart attack, convincing myself that I wasn't really going to die, and realizing it was anxiety calmed me down.
  17. RSH85

    RSH85 Member

    Yeah, it's so hard to recommend something because everyone reacts differently. After having terrible mood swings and other side effects on two different birth control I switched to Nuvaring and love it. However my friend was on Nuvaring before and suffered terrible mood swings, irritability, and decreased sex drive (yuck). It's just trial and error really :/
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  18. nieprophsono

    nieprophsono Member

    My wife used kratom. This powder is very effective in fighting anxiety
  19. ohoward1987

    ohoward1987 Member

    I'm so sorry to hear about this, but I'm sure you can handle it. It is very hard for any woman to lose her own child. She will be recovering for a long time, and the only way I can help is to advise kratom. If you are hearing about this for the first time and don't know where to start, I can tell you about shop kratom, which will be useful for you now. I experienced the loss of a child myself and still sometimes cry at night, although kratom helped me a lot and brought me to my senses. you should try it
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