this is my first time posting to any kind of forum/discussion board. There is not really any family support groups where i live so i am going to try this avenue. my husband is a pill addict and is currently starting detox & rehab at a facility which is a really great thing. what brings me to post today is that I am frustrated. I have done A LOT of reading about how to support a recovering spouse and all I have read makes sense to me and I will strive to do what I can to keep him sober. What is frustrating me is that from all I have read from many different sources & places is that we as the spouses/loved ones are not supposed to bring up the wrongs they have done to us as it is 'negative' and could turn them back to their addictions. We are supposed to stay encouraging/compassionate/non judgemental/supportive. For a long time now it has been all about him & his suffering and from what I understand once he is out of rehab it will still be all about him & his suffering for a long time after. I have sought out support from friends/family & therapist and I absolutely vent to them & it helps but i am so frustrated by the idea that i am not 'allowed' to express my pain at what he has done & how he has treated me to him - the source.