For those that are living with or married to an alcoholic or an addict, do you enable them? There will be no judgement from me because I am guilty of having enabled my husband in the past when he was using and drinking still. He's clean and sober now thankfully. I would find myself giving him the last of my money because I felt that if I didn't do so it would make him mad at me or he would get sick from not having what he "needed". I would also make excuses for him to family and friends. The list goes on and on. I did a lot of things FOR him which was only enabling him. I learned that this is a no no. You have to allow them to be responsible for their own actions and they have to do things ON their own or else they will have no drive or desire to get well. Think of it as a child. If you do everything for the child he or she will not have any reason to learn things on their own. They will just know that "momma" is going to do it so why bother. Take it from me..enabling is something that is hurting them and not helping them or yourself. So, ask yourself if you are indeed enabling your addicted loved one and take the steps to get away from doing so.