I remember the first time someone asked me this question. It was a girl in one of my classes. I had not shown any signs of hurt, pain, anger or annoyance; she was not looking worried or like she had a specific reason for asking me this instead of "Hey, how're you doing?" or "What's up?". It surprised me. I realized I was not sure what to answer, I really was caught at a loss and somehow confused. Instead of answering her question, I returned her with one: "Why do you ask?" She did not think it twice, she just said simply, like if it was obvious from the start, "Because it's important". This is one of the most important things anyone has ever said to me. This simple act of caring, beyond just the social lubricant of asking "How are you doing?". The simplicity of her voice and of her being curious and wanting me to be happy. The realization that I did not think about it for myself. It made me feel like I mattered, somehow. Like I had been seen, and cared for. In harsher moments, I remembered this question, and I asked to myself how I would answer it today, or yesterday, if I were to be honest to myself. Do my choices make me happy? Am I doing good for myself? Am I also trying to show to others concern? More than five years later, I still remember this specific moment, and this girl, and how much it mattered -- still matters -- to me. Truth is, we never know when our words or actions are going to mean the world to someone. We should make sure that when it does, it pushes them towards something positive, rather than negative. How about you? Are you happy? It's important.