It wasn't until my, maybe 6th arrest, that my parents' although financially capable of bailing me out, decided to take the tough love route. I was very deep into my heroin addiction and was stealing from stores daily to support my habit. I was chased down in a mall and tackled by a off duty police officer shopping with his wife and child. It was absolutely insane and as I type the words I realize this even more so. They did not make me wait it out the five months till my trial though. After forty five days they bailed me out under the consideration I go directly to impatient rehab since this was the first time I had been clean longer than a couple days and needed help to stay that way outside a jail cell. I ended up getting kicked out of the rehab for smoking cigarettes in the bathroom and having a cell phone. I had just gotten out of jail and I though rehab would be a step up but this particular rehab was not like the private facilties my parents had forked over the money for in the past. They refused to pay for it this time around so I had to go through the state to get help and the rehab was like a jail but with windows. We weren't even let outside. I suppose I am rambling a bit. I should not have gotten kicked out.. I am not making any excuse. The point is, the first time you are arrested, you deserve a little break. The second time, maybe give them another chance. But after three times it becomes something 'normal' to an addict and you can't let the addict think that you will help them to continue to get high. You need to say, "I will do absolutely ANYTHING in this world for you to get clean but I will no longer support your addiction". I hope your kid never gets to these lows but unfortunately, if they are a true addict, they must hit rock bottom before they can recover. It just depends how low they are willing to go. I came from an upper middle class educated family. I graduated from college. Addiction can bring down anybody. It effects people from all walks of life. I never thought to myself as I child that I would EVER spend time behind bars let alone even be arrested. Maybe this situation with your child is a one off. I have friends that got one DUI or were caught with a little weed once and never had another problem but for others it can be the start of a long spiral downward. Best of luck to you and your daughter.