My OH has been going through some major life issues lately and he just appears to be an empty shell and drinks a couple of drinks just about every night. Back in December he started texting with a female behind my back, literally hiding it from me. His family has known her for years, but he lied to me about it, and the drinking has continued. He told me stopped texting her, but I just found out that he was doing it again. He has been like an empty shell for the last couple of years and I am at my wits end and don't know what to do. I do not think he physically cheated on me, but there was something going on on an emotional level. He refuses to get help for his depression and is self medicating instead. What should I do? We have been together for 11 years and he just needs help.