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Ben Is Back movie about addiction w/ Julia Roberts.

Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by Dominica, Oct 15, 2018.

  1. Dominica

    Dominica Author, Writer, Recovery Advocate Community Listener

    Looks like an excellent movie about addiction... more specifically a mother and her son who struggles with addiction. Looks powerful..... (Starring Julia Roberts)

    Coming in December

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  2. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    So much of that hits very close to home. Hard to watch, but I will go see it. I hope it sheds some light on what parents go through when their child struggles with addiction.
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  3. lamy45

    lamy45 Member

    Brings tears to my eyes ,i am deeply ashamed about what i put my wife through ,all i can do at this precise moment is to stay clean and sober for her ,i wish i could do more .
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  4. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @lamy45... Try not to be ashamed, my friend. You are not a bad person. You were a sick person. Just keep working on yourself and do everything you can to maintain your sobriety. Live in the light of today, not in the dark of the past. We're here for you anytime you need support or someone to listen.
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  5. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    I know exactly exactly what you feel,and your correct stay sober and do right by her.Below is my story and I let shame control me for 20 year's but NO LONGER I push forward and focus on progress not perfection.

    This is my story of addiction.I was born in the early 80's at the age of six year's old i was diagnosed with that time there was a new F.D.A.approved drug by the name of Ritalin.At first it seemed to be a miracle pill,I was on this pill until the age of 18 at that time i decided i was no longer going to take this pill and it began just under a year passed and someone said "Have you ever tried crystal"which i had not at that time but i tried it and instantly noticed that it was 100% the same effect i got from Ritalin only difference was it lasted longer,or seemed to but honestly it was probably the quantity i was doing was greater than that of Ritalin i struggled with meth on and off for roughly 20 year's,not only meth but i was as well consuming 750ml of Jack Daniel's a day plus a 12 pack of beer.For those who don't know when you mix the two you don't appear to get drunk which is very deadly because infact you do get drunk however you don't realise it until it's too late meaning alcohol poisoning.I experienced this a few times and actually died on a hospital bed due to this fact,it took 3 hits with a defibrillator to restart my heart and i was told the only reason I was hit 3 times was because i was only 19 year's old,but usually after the second time if your heart doesn't restart you are then pronounced dead,but a nurse pleaded with the try one more time and he did and my heart started back up.I didn't know at the time but that nurse was actually the mother of the lead singer of Sublime who just lost her son to a heroin overdose.I am forever grateful for that nurse without her plea i would be another statistic.Unfortunately I didn't quite using drug's at that time i just traded substances.I started abusing pain pills heavily and increased that addiction to catastrophic proportions,it got so bad i started injecting heroin which i quickly traded for oxycontin because it was much stronger than heroin.I abused fentanyl as well but nothing compared to the oxycontin.At my worst i was injecting 240-320mg's of oxycontin a day,feeling i wouldn't survive another month i decided to seek help.I'm poor and i come from poor parent's so my options were limited,i ended up at a methadone clinic for help slowly decreasing my extremely high tolerance.At the clinic i had an interview with a drug addiction counselor and an addiction physician,i was hoping for good news but what i heard shock me to my core.I was told by both the same thing,"Sir we are sorry to tell you but your addiction and tolerance is beyond the point of return,whether you quit or continue either way you cannot survive you have if your lucky a month to live"My heart sank and i decided at that moment if i was going to die i would die trying.I went home and prayed and then i called my wife into the room to tell her the news.At that moment i apologized to her told her how much she meant to me and made her promise if i didn't make it she would move on re marry and live a happy life and she noded yes.After that i quite cold turkey and suffered pain and sickness i cannot describe,for 27 straight day's i did not leave the bedroom,i did not eat,i did not sleep,i hallucinated,i screamed in intense unimaginable pain,i lost over 50 pound's in that time frame and had to be rushed to the hospital 3 time's where they would rehydrate me and try to give me pain shots to stall the detox which i refused.On day 28 I took my first steps after i quite and by the grace of God i survived and this May im married 18 year's to my beautiful wife and guardian angel.This is the first time I've shared my story of addiction and i did it for one reason alone,i want everyone to know i understand what you are going through and no matter how bad it gets there is hope.I'm here for each and everyone of you,if you ever need someone to talk to,if you ever feel no one understands im all ears and i do understand.Stay Strong We're rooting for you.

    Take Care Your Now Winning and your addiction is losing strength. Live in the moment, sober,honest,caring,compassionate, etc Finish destroying the control your addiction has ,you are not your addiction and what you do from here on out will be what defines you.Hug your wife,look her deep in the eye's, stare into her soul and tell her your back for good,you will never leave her in that situation again,slowly and softly grab her by the face and give her a passionate kiss.You got this my friend, we all make mistakes, we are human,now take that shame you feel and turn it into passion for the love of your life
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  6. Dominica

    Dominica Author, Writer, Recovery Advocate Community Listener

    @lamy45 I agree that you can go ahead and let that feeling of shame go. The part of you that was lost in addiction and acted in ways that you now regret, was not the real part of you. It was the wounded, egoic part of you. And now you have the opportunity to continue to heal that part of you, and step more into your authentic, powerful self. Your core self, and from there your potential is astounding.

    Trust the process.

    “Your best days are ahead of you. The movie starts when the guy gets sober and puts his life back together; it doesn’t end there.” Bucky Sinister
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  7. Dominica

    Dominica Author, Writer, Recovery Advocate Community Listener

    @True concern "Hug your wife,look her deep in the eye's, stare into her soul and tell her your back for good,you will never leave her in that situation again,slowly and softly grab her by the face and give her a passionate kiss."

    And women around the world thank you for this advice ;):D:rolleyes:
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  8. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    I said something good?:confused:I hope still deep within my heart my wife will one day meet the new me.I think I could be a good husband now,time will tell:eek:.
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