A friend of mine years ago, took advantage of me. I hadn't caught on to her drug use at the time, as she was still quite functional. I gave her money and did things for her all the time. Later, when she started trying to get me to cover her shift, and then called me to bail her out of jail, the stuff hit the fan. It hurt to realize all the lies she had been telling me. She ended up losing her job for doing drugs in the bathroom at work. I missed her, because we had worked together a long time. She came to me for money again, but I would not give her any. She begged. She said she had no food and was going to lose her apartment. I fed her and gave money directly to her landlord. That didn't "help" either. It just let her spend what money she could get on drugs. She wrote me off after she figured out she wouldn't get any more money from me. I tried contacting her, but she didn't want to hear about getting help. She would say she would only talk to me if I would give her money. I didn't. I went to see her after a while, but she wasn't living in her apartment any more, her phone was shut off, and I didn't know how to reach her. I was hurt and sad and worried for a long time. Years later I heard she is doing well, and I hope so. I wish her the best, but I lost a person who was once a good friend.