Wows, giving your first few posts on this thread I figured you were just here to offer support as any addict knows helping others helps yourself too Just goes to show that I shouldn't ever assume what others are dealing with. I can feel for you here as I had been through a rough time in probably the most influential-as far as actually working-rehab I've been through in late2012. I went through this rehab center for my son I was just getting to a point in my life where I was seeing light at the end of the tunnel, I was engaged with a baby and was going sometimes days without using,big deal for me, but we both knew that something was wrong and we were both using. Her,way less than me, or so I thought. Fast forward to me getting out of rehab and us going to thanksgiving dinner with her side of the family.. As far as I know she had quit everything completely although I suspected she still smoked pot, I was gonna let that slide though. I'm in methadone treatment,don't drink and we both had great jobs and even relocated to Colorado for me to get a better position. So I'm sitting there eating and imagine my surprise when her mother blurted out "sucks you lost your job" to her daughter. I tried not to act surprised and was doing good until her mother says "I told you I would pee for you". Ok now I'm mad and say so. I told her that I suspected her of still smoking but she should have told me. Her mom pipes up her big mouth again and says"I wish it was pot my girl has big problems".... Long story short I am now off street drugs only to find out my gf and sons mom has been using meth while I was in the rehab SHE TOLD ME TO GO TO!! She had dropped an elderly woman in the hospital she worked at due to fatigue and the woman broke her hip. She's being sued I'm pi**ed every day and start drinking which I don't even like doing and we spiral toward hatred of each other. Now I raise my son alone after my parents had him due to a four year relapse on heroin. If I could do it all over again and I would, I would be so much more forgiving because I lie alot when I'm using. The number one lie being that I'm not using!! I'm not in any way at all saying that you lie or have ever been dishonest, I was just sharing my experience with a using partner and I know it can be life changing. Don't want to keep rambling on but I'm here for you. God bless you both.