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Can someone be addicted to sex?

Discussion in 'Other Substances' started by morganmar33, Jan 14, 2015.

  1. morganmar33

    morganmar33 Member

    I've heard the phrase addicted to sex and often wondered how it could be an addiction. If so how is harmful?
  2. vegito12

    vegito12 Community Champion

    I think it is possible as it can be compared to video game addiction where you spend a lot of time playing the game and forget other things sex addiction can be happening if it is taking over your life. You may have sex more often and forget responsibilities and also that is all you think about in your mind and just want more sex and will be frustrated. A person who get's addicted to sex may have sex with anyone violently to satisfy lust or desire and not think about the consequences and being violent sometimes to get sex.
  3. Saraldra

    Saraldra Member

    It is definitely an addiction. People can become obsessed with sex, so much so that it becomes the only thing that they want, driving them to aggressive methods of obtaining it - like rape.

    Like most addictions it depends on the personality of the person combined with other factors.
  4. jeremy2

    jeremy2 Community Champion

    I know of someone who confided in me that he has the same problem despite the fact that he has a beautiful,loving,caring and honest wife.He can't understand why he cheats on her despite her being apparently good in bed.I think it's a problem which requires counseling.
  5. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Right, I think those rapist or maniacs are addicted to sex. They are doing all things even the worst things just to get what they want.
  6. catherine_sky

    catherine_sky Member

    Sex addiction, as other addictions, does exist. We talk of addictions either being physical/biological or psychological or both. I am guessing that sex addiction could be both, the physical sensations of sex and how that makes a person feels - physically, good feelings, release, calming. Guess that might be both within the body and the brain. Then there are the psychological effects as well. However, I do think it is rather complicated some people use sex to feel loved, accepted, have a sense of self, feel something but can push into a self loathing, punishment, feeling its the only way to feel alive or wanted or awake. It can be maintained by negative self beliefs about oneself, self esteem, needing to have a role, a purpose which someone might believe might come only if they have sex with someone. A person might just really like to have sex, its overall feelings, their own sex drive and how they manage this within their psychological needs and moral boundaries. There could be elements of control and need to be control or out of control . Lots of reasons I believe can surround a sex addiction. However, this does not vindicate behaviour, moral boundaries, ethical boundaries etc.
  7. morganmar33

    morganmar33 Member

    Thank you all for the information. I have a better understanding of what this addiction means. I see now that it can certainly cause harm.
  8. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    All porn addicts are sex addicts. Anyone who is into compulsive masturbations is a sex addict. Such a person is obsessed with sex. All that's ever on the mind is sex. They can't have normal relationships with anyone because their mind is on other things all the time. Guess where this leads? The addiction will interfere with one's life because that person will be trying to find ways to pleasure themselves all the time.

    Another thing about it is that it can totally destroy one's self-esteem.

    It's harmful effects therefore are just as bad as any other addiction.
  9. Jimmy Loc

    Jimmy Loc Member

    Sex can be either detrimental or healthy, depending on how it is undergone. For instance, in a relationship sex is a healthy, elongating life in longevity and bond between a couple. However, if one is not attracted by ones partner or the pleasure of the intercourse its completely normal, but instead one is aroused by the harm on a body or other unhealthy sexual behavior is unsafe, both psychologically and physically. Such traumas may root from abusive experiences and should be treated to prevent mishap.
  10. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    It's natural to have biological desires but too much of it requires a "remedy." Of course you can be addicted, but if you let your addiction get the better of you, it will create complications for your relationships - romantic or not. If you have a boyfriend, spouse or partner, he'd be having a hard time keeping up with your desires. So if you're aware of this addiction from the outset, the right thing is to practice moderation and self-control before the bad habit consumes you.
  11. elles-belles

    elles-belles Community Champion

    Yes, a person can be addicted to sex... It can actually become so bad that it can disrupt a person's entire life! The person can be so incapacitated to the extent that they suffer at work, suffer in their family life and even get to a point where they suffer socially! I think it is one of the most horrible addictions one can actually be faced with.
  12. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Yes. There's a huge possibility that someone can get addicted to sex. It's normal to have intercourse with your girlfriend/boyfriend once in a while, but getting addicted to it can really be a big problem in your relationship. It's just like you have become a slave of lust, and not of love. Physical relationship doesn't equal love.
  13. Sparkster

    Sparkster Community Champion

    Yes, a person can indeed be addicted to sex hence the terms 'nymphomaniac' and 'satyr'. I have only ever known two sex addicts. It's usually not about the sex or the thrill but more about gaining attention and feeling wanted. Those feelings can be regulated by being promiscuous. It can be damaging because those types of people are unable to have stable relationships and may hurt the feelings of the people they are sleeping with. They may lie to them to get sex or fool them into thinking that they want a relationship, which can be very hurtful to people who may have feelings for the person.
  14. timelord731

    timelord731 Senior Contributor

    Absolutely. Anything that gives a surge in dopamine and glutamate can induce addiction.
  15. kjonesm1

    kjonesm1 Community Champion

    Yes! I was watching a show about a wealthy, young, handsome business man who was addicted to sex. He was being interviewed about when he realized it was an addiction and he had said he would go to these parties in huge multi-million dollar mansions and have crazy threesomes with models and actresses. He explained how he would then find himself only hours later getting a blowjob from a toothless prostitute in an alley somewhere. He ended up losing his beautiful wife and children when it all came to light. If it is affecting you safety, your ability to work and is on the for front of your thoughts all the time... It's an addiction.
  16. RingoBerry

    RingoBerry Senior Contributor

    I searched and found out that there is a medical condition for it.

    So hypersexuality CAN be tied to a number of mental and neurological disorders. Its not a just some insatiable crave that can't be ignored. People that go through this need to see someone so they can be advised and treated if necessary. Of course there is also that high chance that the cravings that they are going through is just a phase in a relationship or just one's self.
  17. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    Yes, such a person is called a sexual deviant or simply a sex addict.
    A lot of people are sex addicts and they are aware of it.
    It's an addiction like every other one, but it's not that common.
    People that are addicted to sex should definitely take a therapy.
  18. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    You can become addicted to almost everything... sadly even sex. When you are an addict to sex most of the times is not about the act itself, it's more about having some kind of emotional or psychological need or trauma that needs to be worked. Most sexual addicts have had a really bad trauma in the past, some of them have an odd idea of sex and for them sex equals to acceptation or some other positive things.

    For me it was never about the pleasure, but more about me trying to fill a void, I suspect this was a result of me being raped as a child. I still have a weird view of sex, is not very normal. That whole incident left me feeling so guilty, scared and confused. I kept it to myself for so long. It affected my self-esteem.
  19. Hypersexuality is absolutely a thing! Especially when it comes to unprotected sex, it can be dangerous.
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  20. Emerson_B

    Emerson_B Active Contributor

    Yes there is such a thing as sexual addiction(hyper sexuality). If not treated or no action is taken to rehabilitate then it can lead to crimes like rape, child molestation and voyeurism just to mention a few.