We've done our part to over, and over and over , but it seems your "labor of love" is coming to naught. Your loved one is "not changing" at all! So, we do a little ignoring once in a while to let them know how we feel-- frustrated with them. By a "little snubbing" (s)he will "realize his mistakes for getting him/herself into trouble in the first place." Is this the right way to do it? What's your case in this method?