In need of some help and info and not sure where to start. My Daughter is 24 and getting ready to graduate college. We had noticed a dramatic weight loss over the past year or so but attributed it to her picking up a smoking habit from her roommate. At a family function a few months ago, she got hammered drunk with some family around and got sick. In her intoxicated state, she said "this wouldn't have happened if I had done coke first". Her family that was with her were horrified. It was then discovered that the day before, she had been asking around at a wedding if anyone "had any coke". Other people in the family came forward and admitted to seeing her snort coke in front of them with her roommate on different occasions and the **** hit the fan... Her mom confronted her and it got very loud, with lots of tears and threats. She is 24, but completely dependent financially so, there was a lot of talk about her future and how her decisions had consequences, etc. She acknowledged that if she had the money, she would do it more often because it felt "so good". She said all the right things and promised to straighten up. Her mom and I drove across the state once a week to administer a drug test and she rolled her eyes about how "we were wasting our time" and "blowing it out of proportion". She "didn't have a problem" and she "only did it once in a while", "everybody does it" and finally, she "had it under control". After a few tests with all negatives, we stopped. It seemed like an exercise in futility and her smug grin, eye rolling and comments were taking their toll and shaking our confidence and resolve. Nothing happened for a while and we didn't have much to follow up on until another family member called us, saying that he didn't want to betray her trust... but he watched her and her roommate grind up and snort adderall before going out for a night of partying. Again, we were mortified. Her roommate is the alpha in their relationship and is brazenly defiant that we can't judge her and that she doesn't have a problem. They go out together and they do coke and don't come home until 5am if at all. To them, it seems like this is just part of their "college experience". She hasn't been arrested, wrecked a car, been fired or any of the other obvious warning signs... other than the comments and people seeing her snorting coke and adderall several times, the impact on her life hasn't shown her any real life consequences other than us "overreacting". Are we overreacting? She is 24 and has her whole life ahead of her. We are strongly considering staging an intervention, but still lack the full confidence that we are doing the right thing. We know that addicts will deny the problem and attempt to explain, mitigate and justify their behavior. Just looking for some insight on how to proceed. Thanks.