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Convincing a Loved One to Enter Rehab

Discussion in 'Share Your Rehab Experience' started by emily0531, Jan 21, 2015.

  1. emily0531

    emily0531 Member

    What is the best way to convince someone that you love to enter rehab? I know that a person has to realize that they have a problem with an addiction before they will get help, but once they know they have a problem, they oftentimes continue to refuse help. The person that I am concerned about keeps trying to recover on his own, and it never works. I believe that the help of a professional is needed but am not sure how to suggest rehab. Any advice would be appreciated.
  2. Winterybella

    Winterybella Community Champion

    Emilyo531, the only people I am exposed to are people involved with marijuana use. This somehow seems to be at the lower spectrum when it comes to serious concerns of abuse. That said, it's highly unlikely that anyone I know would be interested in rehab since most don't think they don't have a problem.

    What strikes me is that the person in your scenario keeps trying to recover on their own. That still has to count for something. In fact I find it quite commendable. Let me also commend you for wanting to help. There has to be some information perhaps in the resource section that can help you. In the meantime have a look at the information in the link I will provide and see if it offers any practical suggestions.

    Last edited: Apr 20, 2015
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  3. elles-belles

    elles-belles Community Champion

    emily0531 I have to agree with most of what Winterybella has said, and would also like to commend you on supporting this person in your life who obviously needs it more than every right now.

    Have you tried sitting him down and actually just coming out and suggesting that he tries rehab? I find that sometimes that works because he seems to have a willingness to quit and might just be waiting on someone who cares to hold his hand and take him to rehab. The fact that he wants to try alone is a show of strength on his side as well but if you lay down the benefits of doing it with other people in similar situations he is likely to change his mind.
    Use the fact that he is willing to get help and change right now even if he thinks he can do it alone to show him that he doesn't have to be alone in this; assure him of your unending support and he might just bite.
    I tried this with a friend and it worked so I hope it turns out the same for you.
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  4. notodrugs

    notodrugs Community Listener Community Listener

    Hi Emily. Has he ever told you why he wants to do his own recovery? Has he refused professional help before? If he hasn't yet, then maybe, you can try by asking him these questions. His answers might give you a better perspective on how you can encourage and/or suggest rehab or professional help for him. Or you can start by asking him "why not seek professional help this time?" Or if you know of people who have recovered with professional help, tell him about them. He might be encouraged.

    I think it will also depend on your friend's attitude and your level of communication or friendship with him. If he's open to suggestions, you can recommend that idea right away. If he's the stubborn type and you can get someone to encourage him, like a trusted and respected family or friend, without your friend feeling uncomfortable about it, involve that person in. Good luck!
  5. 6up

    6up Community Champion

    You can not force someone to enter rehab. You need to talk to them and make them realise the reason why. Tell them how their projects are not developing. Let them compare their past and present life. You can give example of former addicts who have passed through rehab and are living a good life.
  6. Bonzer

    Bonzer Community Champion

    The fact is every addict tries to resolve his/her problems on their own. They also try their best to conceal their problems in the open. They also fear that if someone comes to know about their problems, they might look down upon him and see him as a weak person. Thus, if someone offers help, they put up a volte face and question your credentials on the subject, in other words, they repel people who want to help them.

    It's not easy to convince them. I'm facing the same problem with my brother.
  7. Damien Lee

    Damien Lee Community Champion

    This is an area where I'm not having much luck. I have a very close friend who has a serious meth problem and I'm trying to help him. I kicked my drug habit many years ago and I'm hoping he will see the light. It seems like many people are experiencing the same issue, trying to convince someone close with a problem to visit rehab.

    And yes, my friend's behavior is very similar. Won't listen to reason and thinks he knows best when clearly his health is worsening on a daily basis from his addiction.
  8. amin021023

    amin021023 Community Champion

    It's a good thing that he tries to quit on his own, shows he realizes his problem and knows he should quit, so your job is fairly easy. have you tried asking him why he doesn't go to rehab? maybe he can't afford it financially or he doesn't know what rehabs really are?
  9. chanelskii

    chanelskii Member

    You have to talk to him on why he doesn't want to go to rehad. But because he's already realizing his mistake on his own, it's a good sign for his recovery. Just talk him through it, ask him why not go for help and try to cinvince him in a manner that is not nagging at all.
  10. superbobby

    superbobby Active Contributor

    Set up an intervention with close friends and family. Let each on share their thoughts about his situation and make him/her feel his/her importance to each and everyone of you. There is nothing that convinces better than by showing love.