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Costliest Mistake You've Made When Drunk?

Discussion in 'Alcohol' started by Rainman, Aug 28, 2015.

  1. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    Alcoholics make lots of mistakes when they are drunk but some of these mistakes are so costly that it changes their lives forever. There once was a fight in a bar and the bar owner killed someone. She asked the two customers who to dump the body and they'd get free booze for a looong time. They did but someone reported the crime and the two were jailed.

    Had they not been drunk they wouldn't have got themselves in trouble. That was their turning point though. Never again did they drink after being released from prison.

    Question: what are some of the most costly mistakes you made when you were drunk? Did their consequences prompt you to change?
  2. singingintherain

    singingintherain Community Champion

    Wow that is an horrific story! Good to hear that things turned around for them after that though.

    I haven't made any very costly mistakes. There have been many nights where I've spent far more than I intended to though. Never more than about $80 but when I was a student that was an awful lot of money to me. For me it is usually costly mistakes in a social sense, rather than monetary. My ex once broke some furniture in a hotel room and had to pay over $1000 for damages. He wasn't intentionally destroying anything but it would never have happened if he was sober, or at least hadn't drunk as much.
  3. Ali16

    Ali16 Senior Contributor

    I'm going with most costly by emotional standards here. A large group of us used to go out after work on Friday night. One day, someone got the idea to invite one of our bosses. She started coming to happy hour regularly and became friends with us all (or so we thought). We got used, badly. I ended up doing a lot of unpaid work helping her out with projects. As soon as all those projects were over - she wanted nothing to do with me at all. After that, she did similar things to other friends.
  4. singingintherain

    singingintherain Community Champion

    That's awful! Do you think she was just pretending to be friendly with everyone with the intention of getting that work for free? Did anyone confront her about it in any way? The power dynamic of employee versus employer makes that sort of situation really difficult.

    I've been both the employee and the employer and I am very careful about socializing outside of work. I'm still quite new to being an employer and I'm trying to figure out the best way to maintain the right boundaries. I don't like being thought of as 'the boss' but there does need to be some structure to things.

    On the note of costly mistakes, alcohol and work one of my friends had an internship at a really good local business. On his last day they had a staff party and he drank far, far too much. He made a fool of himself after all of his hard work over the last three months. He didn't get a job offer and believes that he would have if he hadn't acted like that. He did learn from the mistake but it may have cost him the job. It was just after he finished his degree also so breaking into that career path was especially important.
  5. Nergaahl

    Nergaahl Community Champion

    I was at a music gig, and it was the first night. No big and not so many interesting bands played then, so I decided to go have a drink in the nearby woods with my friends. But things escalated quickly and I was completely drunk. I returned to the fest and I bought a lot of merchandise, and CDs (I collect records). The following days I didn't have any money to eat (or drink) anything. I didn't care at that moment though.
  6. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    I remember losing my wallet once. I was pretty drunk (I could barely put together a sentence, which was very bad when I realized what happened) and I started to lose awareness of my whereabouts. Shortly after, I woke up in my bed with my wallet missing. I had a couple of hundred dollars plus some important things inherited, which I felt pretty sad when I realized they were gone forever.
  7. Cheeky_Chick

    Cheeky_Chick Community Champion

    I have never made any mistakes like the ones described in your post, however costly I can identify with - as I have a horrible habit of shopping online when I am drunk. I buy many things that I don't want or need, and most of the time I end up returning them - which obviously costs me money, so I still lose a little even though I didn't keep hold of the item. I really need to set a password of some kind that I won't remember when I am drunk, as I can't really afford to lose any money in this way at the moment!
  8. Emerson_B

    Emerson_B Active Contributor

    In one night, I lost my wallet, got my phone's LCD smashed, paid for tons of drinks and got into a fender bender(not necessarily in that order). I forgot most of it when I woke up but when I checked my phone for messages, I can't. I checked for my wallet, its gone. I was about to go out to by some stuff from the supermarket, I found out that the front right fender of my car has a big gash. I forgot how much all of that cost me.
  9. OhioTom76

    OhioTom76 Senior Contributor

    Two DUI's - each of them cost me over $10k a piece, and perhaps much more if I were to really do the math in detail. In addition to the thousands of dollars in fines, towing, and lawyer fees, I had to pay for my time in jail, I had to pay for a taxi to and from work every day for several years in addition to a car payment and insurance for a vehicle I couldn't even drive. I was also sentenced to get one of those breathalizer devices for my car, which would have cost me an additional monthly rental fee, not to mention the installation and removal costs, and the damage it would have done to my car installing it. I opted to not drive at all and instead put that money towards a taxi, because the device was too much of a hassle - it could randomly shut down your car from time to time and force you to pull over and do a breath test, I can't be screwing around with that type of crap in busy traffic.

    Whenever I had to travel for work, I had to refuse the rental car my employer was trying to arrange for me because I didn't want to tell them I couldn't drive, so I had to pay out the rear end for a taxi ride everywhere while I was in town. Then when I finally did get my license back it was several more hundred dollars in reinstatement fees.
  10. lamanlupa

    lamanlupa Member

    It's not very serious, I fell asleep while me and my friends were drinking. I passed out but when I woke up, I was at the side of the pool and I was covered with superglue. I had superglue in my armpits, nipples, eye-brows and my leg hairs. It's a good thing, they never tried anything more humiliating.
  11. AFKATafcar

    AFKATafcar Community Champion

    I don't necessarily have a drinking problem, but I do tend to drink more than I should when I do choose to drink. I almost broke my wrist a couple of years ago while falling drunk. My wrist ached for about two months before it felt normal again, so obviously I did something pretty bad to it. I'm just lucky the damage wasn't worse, and that helped prevent me from drinking for quite a few months.
  12. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    Mistakes and regrets go hand in hand with drinking to much alcohol, and these regrets can be anything from making a fool out of yourself on a night out, to losing or wasting all your money, all the way through to the more serious driving while under the influence, and at worst taking another persons life.

    The trouble is that everybody thinks they know what their limit is when it comes to alcohol, and more often than not they're oblivious to the effect it as ob them.
  13. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    Apart from financial, I guess it was really that I could have done a lot better at university. I got through my course, miraculously - but I just think of the potential I had and what I could have gone on to do had I not have just scraped through.
  14. JonnyMacdonald

    JonnyMacdonald Community Champion

    Too many to name.
    Once I lost $1800 at a casino in Vegas. Walked into the place already hammered, they should have cut me off but they didn't.
    Worst was never having a relationship with my father, because one of us was always drunk. Sure we drank together on occasion, but we never really had a deep conversation everything was face value.
  15. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    most of my damaged happened because of my clumsiness. I can't guarantee I wouldn't have done it sober. I fell into a car side mirror ans broke it off, I've put holes in walls, etc. The most 'expensive' damage I've done is costing myself most of my friends.
  16. Adrianna

    Adrianna Community Champion

    No but I've seen plenty. Maybe my costliest mistake was thinking I could drink a relationship away. Like maybe he wouldn't be there when I woke up. I didn't think that, but now I feel like I did. I should have just figured things out and broken the relationship off sooner. I certainly found out what it was like to be with someone you can't stand and I imagined that some people go through this for a long time. You know being married to the wrong one. You don't want to have sex. You cringe when you hear their voice. The idea of them touching you makes you want to vomit. My skin would crawl when he was around. It's like being a stepford wife. You drink and do drugs to escape the horror. I never thought I would ever experience that until I found myself with no desire for someone I was with. I would say this was my most costly alcohol mistake. Wasting time with someone I didn't want to be with. Thinking, I could drink it away.
    It didn't work. I should have just broken it off when it occurred to me. Instead of torturing myself for the length of time that I did. Stupid of me. I fell for one of those narcissistic traps. You know the covert aggressive types that you only read about in criminal text books. They go around after telling people how vulnerable they are so they can feel better. Live and you learn. Well I've chalked it up and am so happy to be out of it. Wheuoooo am I happy to be free of that.
    Last edited: Sep 4, 2015
  17. Whiskers

    Whiskers Active Contributor

    The worst mistake I ever made while drunk was to start a fight at a local bar. There was a guy who had been trying to hit at me the entire evening and after taking a few drinks I decided to give him a chance. He was quite goodlooking but what I did not know was I was not the only one with an eye on him. After we took to the dance floor I noticed a group of girls sat regarding us silently. Wondering what that was about I pointed their way asking if he knew them. The next thing I knew they group of girls walked up to me demanding I let go of the guy. Apparently he had gone there with one of them who was feeling bad at being side stepped. I put up a strong fight but no way could I have won against them.
  18. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    One person against a group would be a challenge for anyone!
  19. SLTE

    SLTE Community Champion

    Nothing terribly bad. The first time I got drunk I puked on the rug in my parents' room. I honestly have no idea how I got in there, but I do remember the puking part. Spent the next day scrubbing the dickens out of the fabric to make sure there wouldn't be a stain. Fortunately (and stupidly) I hadn't eaten a whole lot before and during drinking, so most of it was just clear liquid. Pretty easy to clean.

    So that's a delightful story, right? Eugh. Still, I've gotten off lucky, because on the rare occasion that I do drink I tend to hold back enough that my decision-making isn't too impaired.
  20. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    I don't have a drinking problem but one time I was drinking white wine and lost track of how much I had consumed. I had to throw up about 5x. I never drink to excess now because that was a miserable experience. I also hate the whole "room spinning' thing. No Thank you!! Moderation is much better!