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Dad having one too many drinks lately

Discussion in 'Alcohol' started by imperivm1, Mar 10, 2015.

  1. imperivm1

    imperivm1 Community Champion

    I am worried my dad will become an alcoholic if he doesn't dial down the daily intake soon. He drinks during lunch time, in the afternoon, and then before he calls it a day, he helps himself to some more after dinner. How can I make him see that what he's doing is going to have an adverse effect on him and the people around him in the near future if he doesn't take any precautions before it's too late?
  2. AFKATafcar

    AFKATafcar Community Champion

    I'm sorry to hear about the situation with your father. Have you talked to any other family members and gotten their opinions on this behavior? Mentioning it to your father could help him see that what he's doing could turn into something more dangerous. A lot of people like to drink throughout the day, but they don't believe that anything can happen to them to make them rely upon the alcohol. They often don't realize their errors until the situation has become much, much worse.
  3. ReadmeByAmy

    ReadmeByAmy Community Champion

    I remembered way back before my dad used to drink alcohol everyday but only after his work.
    We are always reminding him about the possible side effects it will bring to his health in the future.
    He don't listened to us until he became sick with diabetes. Those who are into alcoholism and other form of addictions does not realize how these toxic substances will ruin their health and life in the long run before it is too late to prevent it.
  4. imperivm1

    imperivm1 Community Champion

    Wow, I guess all alcoholics have the same thing in common - they do not seem to be aware of their addiction and think they have it all under control. I never knew alcohol could take over people's lives and fog their minds completely until I got to witness it first hand. It's a pity because all you can do is simply sit and watch how your beloved one is slowly flushing his health down the drain and you're virtually helpless because the underlying cause of the issue prevents the brain from functioning properly. There's little we can do to break the vicious cycle.
    Last edited: Apr 17, 2015
  5. Charli

    Charli Community Champion

    I think the best way to combat this is to just talk with him without any assumptions. Some people are alcoholics and some people just drink a lot. The difference is often slim but there is still a difference nonetheless and you will most likely be able to find out which is which if you come into the situation as objectively and as calmly as you can.
  6. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    This will all depend on the type of relationship you have with your dad. If you can coax him into stopping, then you may try this method. Others are more dictatorial. They send their parents ultimatums or else there will be consequences. Are you willing to go this far? Have there been instances in the past where you convinced your dad to give you something he normally wouldn't be persuaded to give? If so, look back to this instance and learn from it. Use that experience to convince him to give up his alcohol.
  7. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    As the poster before me said, a lot of this is going to depend on what your relationship is like with him. If he sees you as pestering him or nagging at him, then this may make him drink even more. If he sees you as somebody who he can listen to then all you'll have to do is talk to him about it, that may he enough.
  8. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    Most parents believe that they are wiser than their kids so the advice you offer might possibly fall on deaf ears. I'd suggest trying to get your father to seek help. In the right places. If he can attend an AA meeting that would be a good start. By no means am I suggesting not trying to get him to stop drinking. If you have to do it then be persistent.

    Paralyze resistance with persistence — Woody Hayes
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  9. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Maybe try to have a heart to heart talk to him. I think there could be chances that he will listen than not trying to talk to him at all. It might be helpful if someone will try to talk to him about it and made him realize that something is already wrong.
  10. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Maybe try to have a heart to heart talk to him. I think there could be chances that he will listen than not trying to talk to him at all. It might be helpful if someone will try to talk to him about it and made him realize that something is already wrong.
  11. anne16

    anne16 Active Contributor

    This is a hard situation to be into. I can relate because my husband has the same problem with his father. My husband and his sisters have already tried to talk to him but to no avail, he ends up shouting and yelling at them. They ask him to see a doctor or a specialist but he denies being an alcoholic. Until this day, he refuse to see a doctor or have counseling. Sad thing is, looks like its getting worse for him. Hopefully, you can convince your dad to seek help.