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Day 7!!!!

Discussion in 'Alcohol' started by Momboss, Aug 7, 2018.

  1. Momboss

    Momboss Active Contributor

    I have made it to day 7! I’m feeling a bit calmer and settled, my blood pressure has improved, still high but not in crisis levels, I’m not getting as many sweaty episodes either. I think I had 2 yesterday. My anxiety is still and issue as that’s always been there alcohol just made it worse. The real test is coming up next Monday when the kids go back to school, and my youngest starts pre-K. I need to not get bored, that’s usually when I’ll have a drink. I also have a lot of out of the house time this week which is another reason why I would drink, I hate leaving my house. A shot or two would make it easier, then i would “reward” myself when I got home because I left. I feel like I have the ability to do this and not drink I just need to build my strength and confidence in myself.
    I want to thank @lonewolves and @deanokat @True concern, @Dominica, you guys are true angels and probably saved me from falling into a black hole!
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  2. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Momboss... Big congratulations to you on making it to Day 7!!! That is AWESOME!!! I'm so glad you're starting to feel better, too. Definitely start planning ways to stay busy when your kids go back to school. You need to alleviate the boredom that could be a trigger for you. Maybe start making lists of things you can do. And physical exercise, even if it's just going for a walk around the block, will be helpful, too. When the body's endorphins are flowing, it can keep away that urge to drink.

    We are here for you and happy to help you on your journey. You are doing this, my friend!!! Just keep going!!! :)
  3. Dominica

    Dominica Author, Writer, Recovery Advocate Community Listener

    I'm super glad to hear this! Congratulations on one week sober! This truly is remarkable and I'm glad that your health is improving as well. I think many of us can relate to anxiety, so know that you're not alone on that end. I'm not sure how much of a reader you are, but perhaps when the kids are gone you can take up to reading a good book. Learning various stress or anxiety reduction skills can be valuable. Also maybe watching some YouTube videos by therapists on the topic. Just kind of continue to feed your mind inspiring and motivational things everyday. It's the mindset that we're working with here, as it can get way off sometimes.

    And certainly take some time to write here anytime you're feeling anxious or craving a drink. Just try to think of how you'll feel afterwards, and how you don't want to feel altered or disappointed. And certainly just reach out for help anytime.

    Again, proud of you and happy for you!
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  4. lonewolves

    lonewolves Community Champion

    This is the best news I’ve heard all week! Yay!
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  5. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    @Momboss I am so proud of you and the other's above have given some great advice to help you stay on the sober path and i believe those thing's will absolutely help on your journey. This is just AWESOME news.Some of the best news I've heard all week to echo my friend @lonewolves .I love this community, genuine individuals with genuine concern.:)
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  6. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    @Momboss I believe you are wrapping up day 9 without alcohol and if so yaaaaaa awesome, however in the off chance you slipped up just know we are here for you, if you have stumbled reachout so we can help you back up,of course I am not saying you have but just incase I want you to know your still freakin awesome and the road to recovery is full of up's and down's and personally I would love to hear how your doing. Remember you are not alone in this and you don't have to do this alone.So hope to hear from you soon have a beautiful evening.Stay Strong and God Bless.
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  7. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    Hey, @Momboss... Check in with us when you have a chance, okay? We'd love to hear how things are going with you. We are here and we care.
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  8. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    @Momboss how are you doing? Just checking in,haven't forgotten about you and i hope and pray everything is well, have a beautiful day and Take Care
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  9. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Momboss... Talk to us, my friend. We're here for you and would love to hear how things are going.
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  10. Cametobelieve0202

    Cametobelieve0202 Community Champion

    This post got me thinking. I was just reading a book on addiction by some guy who’s a big deal can’t remember his name but he was on oprah. Anyway lol doesn’t matter. So this guy says “alcoholics drink because of triggers” kind of like this women was saying. She can’t “get bored” or else she might drink. That theory doesn’t make sense to me. I’m an alcoholic and I drank because of that. I drank because I’m an alcoholic. Seems silly to blame it on something else cuz I drank if I were bored or alone or happy, or sad, to celebrate or to bury my feelings. Triggers aren’t what cause us to drink right? They are what make us feel an urge. But if I’m being honest with myself nearly everything in my life when I was using was a trigger. Anyway back to the beginning, so this guy says if you eliminate the triggers from an addicts life they will no longer have the desire to use. One if his examples was “if you don’t engage the alcoholic in an argument and instead offer to do something kind, they will choose to spend time with you instead of choosing the drug/alcohol.” Am I the only one who thinks that’s INSANE?
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  11. Dominica

    Dominica Author, Writer, Recovery Advocate Community Listener

    Hey there. I can see your point. Maybe he's talking more in terms of neurologically. How the brain will make that neural connections between a trigger and drinking. If every time I feel bored I reach for a drink, my brain makes that connection and can remember it quite well. So when I feel bored, i reach for a drink.

    Or perhaps when I get into an argument or are feel anger or pass by the alcohol aisle or whatever the trigger is. So when I want to stop drinking, some people say that I should replace the behavior with something different so my brain will weaken the old neural connection and strengthen a new one. Lake forming a new habit I guess.

    I'm not so sure that I believe that there's just one factor involved with why people drink. I think there are multiple factors on various levels.
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  12. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Cametobelieve0202... I think @Dominica has the right idea. I think the whole "triggers" thing has to do more with the psychological aspect of addiction rather than the physical aspect.
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  13. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    Ok so the way I see this is slightly different than anyone's and im not suggesting anyone here is incorrect rather im suggesting you are all correct,now for me being a person who drank everyday since about 13 or so,there were no trigger's, i was going to drink poor or rich mansion or street it really didn't matter,now 7 month's without alcohol I recognize there are indeed certain trigger's like extreme stress,arguments with certain people, smelling it(on a smaller scale)etc.Now I recognize these potential trigger's but ultimately it comes down to a person's conviction to NOT drink.In my opinion if your going to drink regardless you are going to find a "supposed" trigger but if your committed to not drinking nothing will trigger that drink.This is my opinion and mine alone and I have fought many urges to drink and had many bad,sad,hopeless feeling day's but those emotions will never again be the fault of alcohol, those feeling's are mine and mine alone and I will not allow alcohol to claim responsibility for who I am or what I do.
  14. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    Definitely multiple factors....
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  15. Dominica

    Dominica Author, Writer, Recovery Advocate Community Listener

    @True concern you are doing great... and thank you for that insight. glad your emotions will not be cause to pick up a drink..... never again!! :D:D
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  16. Cametobelieve0202

    Cametobelieve0202 Community Champion

    My parents and retired AODA counselors and they gave me a huge bag of books. We were reading that particular book while doing our garage sale. I think my dad wound up tossing it in the trash or I would be able to reference it better. Dude was basically knocking Alanon but at the same time trying to use Alanon principles. It was supposed to be a guide on how to get your loved one sober. He was essentially saying it was up to the loved one to get the other person sober. And pretty much they’re job to create this perfect environment for the addict and then the addict wouldn’t use. Like if you replace all the alcohol in the house with delicious alternatives the alcoholic will choose those and choose not to drink. I just remember thinking, “oh god, if only it were that simple”
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  17. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    Ya I would conclude that to be far from the truth...again just my opinion
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