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Did anyone quit?

Discussion in 'Marijuana' started by Clairelouise84, Apr 23, 2015.

  1. Clairelouise84

    Clairelouise84 Senior Contributor

    My other half's brother is addicted to marijuna, he does not think he is because he does not think it is possible to be addicted to it, he is convinced of that He smokes it all day every day,despite having no job. He is aggressive and a bully when he does not have it and he makes people's lives a living misery. I have just about given up on him now as has his sister (It has been going on for well over 12 years now) and I would just like to know, has anyone else quit? Does it happen and does he stand a chance? He is a nice guy when he is "normal" he really is, he is funny, thoughtful and compassionate and so so talented but I would like that brother in law, not the one I have now.
  2. AAngelo

    AAngelo Senior Contributor

    I think you should make sure that's weed is the only thing he is taking. I have a few friends who smoke the whole day and depriving them of weed don't result in hostility. Though they become irritable and constantly mention the desire to smoke, they never result to bullying or any other form of aggressiveness.

    In any case, don't give up on him. He is under the influence of something and he needs a clear and loving voice to help him get away from his demons. Loved ones are important in the battle against any addiction.
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  3. bluedressed

    bluedressed Community Champion

    It could be that he has also some anger-management issues and that instead of working on that, he uses weed to relax without effort and to just let it all go away. My bf also is very firm in the "We don't hate on the weed, I will not stop it", though I think it's because I already pushed him to stop smoking tobacco and then to stop drinking after various bad incidents. The weed is his "last stand" or something, whatever. It's annoying but it hurts nobody so far.
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  4. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    I personally think that people should quit when it comes to such things, it's very important to live a clean and healthy life because it affects the way our children and our grandchildren will perceive the world. I try to take care of people around me and stay away from unhealthy things because it's very difficult to live in an unclean life where you have to constantly worry about the consequences. Sometimes people do not worry about it but once they go through health problems and they start to see it physically, they regret it, and that's what we don't want to arrive at.
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  5. Faithfulmarie

    Faithfulmarie Member

    I agree with you, that when the consequences come in the form of health problems, then everyone else is affected. I know someone, who tell me that his smoking weed is like "drinking coffee", and that no one else should be bothered. This from someone who lives at home at age thirty, does not contribute to the national GDP and wastes his God given potential. Any habit that does not allow you to become a functioning member of society, needs to be curbed. This through professional assistance, love and support of concerned family members.
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  6. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    I agree. I think it's very sad actually that people would go to such addictions that doesn't help society but only influences the minds of people, and once they get ill because of what they've been doing, they will completely regret it. I define it as a lack of faith because they don't believe in the consequences, but once reality hits them, they start believing. I think we need a generation that actually has faith in the unseen because if they aren't careful about what is yet to come or what could come, they might not care, and they don't care because of their lack of faith in the consequences.
  7. amin021023

    amin021023 Community Champion

    I think quitting Marijuana is very hard because all it's pleasure and effect is on one's mind not body, I have a friend that quit Marijuana but started using opiate in order to cope it but got hooked on opiate and now he's situation is even worse. thus, all the family should decide to do something about him and talk him out of it.
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  8. kylerlittle

    kylerlittle Community Champion

    That's really sad, but unfortunately it's a reality that the mind will crave pleasure that replaces whatever addiction you been through.
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  9. amin021023

    amin021023 Community Champion

    you're absolutely right but the thing is that weed stimulates the nerves in brain that are responsible for pleasure therefore causes you strong feelings of happiness and content that is not one's brain that tried weed will know nothing can replace it...
  10. Clairelouise84

    Clairelouise84 Senior Contributor

    Thank you, I am so glad you said that, I asked that of his sister who insists that "he only smokes weed" when I don't think he does. He clearly has something else going on and I get that she doesn't want to admit it but she needs to. He has bi-polar but he has never been aggressive until recently so I think he is either taking something else or something more serious may have developed.
  11. Clairelouise84

    Clairelouise84 Senior Contributor

    That is fair enough and I hope it never does hurt, he has never had any issues before, he is a very placid and quiet man and when he is "normal" that much is clear, he is kind, gentle and thoughtful and would not hurt a fly but something has changed and I want to know what.
  12. henry

    henry Community Champion

    People who smoke weed as part of their lifestyle are usually the ones that get addicted. I only smoked on weekends, and only when I drank, thats why I never got hooked. To me, drugs were a special thing in the sense that it was like taking a break from your troubles, from reality and letting your mind just fly off. That's why I always considered that anything you do everyday, rapidly loses its charm. It becomes just another thing you do.
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  13. Nick W.

    Nick W. Community Listener Community Listener

    After my mom passed away I started smoking all day every day, 9am-2am. It was a regular thing. This went on for about 2 years and all of a sudden I started throwing up in the mornings every 3-4 days. I didn't really know what was going on, but it wasn't a big deal because I was stoned. I finally decided that I needed to break out of my depression and stop hiding behind the weed. Almost as soon as I quit I started to feel better and stopped throwing up. Turns out that I was experiencing Cannabinoid hyperemesis syndrome, a rare form of cannabinoid toxicity that develops in chronic smokers. Now, this is a rare situation, but it was enough to make me think back on why I was doing it. Despite the horribly sick feeling. I genuinely liked the way the drug made me feel, and even now I wish I could smoke regularly (if it was legal). It's hard to push something aside when it makes you feel so good.
  14. Pafpartner

    Pafpartner Member

    About one year ago i smoke a lot :D
    But today i think thats nothing... I don`t need it anymore!
  15. devinametallic

    devinametallic Active Contributor

    I'm not going to lie to you, I do smoke weed heavily and tried taking breaks a few times and during those breaks I would get really irritable and emotional cause I just really wanted that high feeling. But it can definitely happen. I've had a coworker who told me she used to smoke extremely heavy and quit cold turkey one day and never looked back. I think it was because of her new career that motivated her. Maybe he needs to find something to be motivated about.
  16. ocurtis25

    ocurtis25 Member

    I gave up my addiction of smoking anything period for the love
    of my life because she was worth stopping for. I felt that I wasn't getting
    anything accomplished at all. I just like the fact that I can sit in my house, and
    eat up every thing. I was stuck most of the time in front of the TV so I felt it was
    time for a change for my family.
  17. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    I used to smoke marijuana all the time but not as much now. I decided I needed to cut down and just did. I didn't feel any negative side effects or anything like that so I'm not too sure how addictive it is to be honest.

    If I could just stop and it not bother me then I'm sure others probably could aswell?
  18. bluedressed

    bluedressed Community Champion

    Then having a non-confrontional conversation with him about how his life is going could be a good idea -- maybe it's the people he met, the developments in his personal or professional(?) life, or something that stresses him and that he chooses to rely on weed to "let it go". I don't think that's a good way, btw, but he might feel attacked otherwise. Just talk to him in a cool way, maybe there are some problems you can help him fix and then he can unwind a bit.
  19. slattery2u

    slattery2u Member

    I quit, but the only way to quit is to stop being around people who smoke, otherwise you will never give it up and you will continue back on the road of destruction.
  20. Clairelouise84

    Clairelouise84 Senior Contributor

    You are absolutely right, people need to stay clean for their children and their grandchildren, he grew up in a household with a father who was an abusive drunk both emotionally and physically, this means he should very much know better than to do these things and scare the poor child! I wish he would stop but no one can seem to get through to him.