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Does prostitution count?

Discussion in 'Other Substances' started by JonnyMacdonald, May 20, 2015.

  1. JonnyMacdonald

    JonnyMacdonald Community Champion

    My uncle spent his family savings on call girls. Or maybe they didn't even have savings since I guess it has been going on for a long time. Ruined his marriage when things came to light.
    Thing is (well I actually here this about other stuff on this forum) he was the last guy you would have ever expected.
    It's one of those lesser known addictions, but sex addiction while not a substance shares an alarming number of negative consequences as substance abuse.
  2. amethyst

    amethyst Community Champion

    Well, perhaps your uncle wasn't exactly addicted to prostitutes. He might have just felt the need for some kind of outlet for the frustrations that he was experiencing in his private or professional life. Obviously, his wife didn't feel much sympathy for him when it all came to light, so things might have been difficult for some time before he even started going to see call girls.
    In any case, I hope your uncle has found a good balance in life again, and that he is now travelling on a different path.
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  3. missbishi

    missbishi Community Champion

    Your uncle's story serves as a stark reminder to talk to our significant others about the things that are bothering us rahther than keeping secrets and letting things fester. How is he doing now?
  4. JonnyMacdonald

    JonnyMacdonald Community Champion

    Well "how he is doing" is a highly subjective answer. He says he is good, since he can now run around with various women while paying token attention to his family. The rest of us think he is a mad man! But I guess to each his own right? His family doctor actually told him that he would be best to start a regiment of drugs too tone down his sexual appetite. He says that makes him less of a man. I think that taking care of family and not living in sin makes you more of a man.
    I guess it all depends what you value. He see's himself as a pseudo-celebrity , that having lots of sex with different partners makes him the new Charlie Sheen. As if that man is anyone to admire.
    Since getting clean I realize only one thing matter, which is following the righteous path that God has set out for us.
  5. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Such addiction is like any kind of addiction, can destroy lives. It could have various bad effects such as broken family and broken wallet. He can also get or acquire a disease on such kind of addiction especially if he was being neglectful of things.
  6. rightct

    rightct Community Champion

    Your uncle probably wanted to vent out his inner frustration toward something, and he felt that the best recourse for this was spending money on prostitutes. He isn't to be fully blamed since people themselves could've made him go by this choice, you never know.

    So, my answer would be that, somehow, prostitution also counts.
  7. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    I've always believed that people like that do it for the chance to feel like someone wants them.
  8. tckc

    tckc Member

    Does it seem like your uncle has a compulsive need to be with prostitutes? Like, he sometimes says he is sorry but that he doesn't know how to stop?
    Does he engage in any other high risk behaviors, like gambling? Does he pick up other (non-professional) women as well?
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  9. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    Those are all really good questions.
  10. Charli

    Charli Community Champion

    I agree. I think it's a common misconception by the masses to only think of substances when they hear addiction, which is why most are always quick to ostracize others for using even if they themselves have the same type of obsession with something else without even realizing it. In my opinion, deviant behavior such as this is rooted in past events that molds people's psychology, so it might be best to have him checked with a mental health professional.
  11. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    I don't think it matters what you call it. I think some people will tune you out if you call it "addiction". No matter what you call it, it's a problem and it needs to be dealt with. STDs and jail time and the risk of being robbed or killed because you just happened to call or pick up the wrong person are all very serious things.
  12. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    Addiction is a condition that everyone falls prey to. We each have our own share of addiction beyond drugs and other substances. That is your uncle's kind of addiction. What makes it alarming is that it harmed people especially his family. His life was also compromised, therefore it had to stop. Someone like him should also go to rehab. There are a few support groups that support his type of addiction.
  13. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    @xTinx is right. Even if its just a group online like this one, it will be so much easier talking to people who understand what he's feeling and going thru.
  14. vegito12

    vegito12 Community Champion

    A person being addicted to prostitutes, will end up spending a lot of money and ruin close relationships they have and think this is a good thing as they may feel content and satisfied too. The women will only be with the person as, they are getting paid and this may make the person think they are Charlie Sheen and have the ladies when they see him as a sugar daddy with loads of money and may fuel the ego the person has. I think coming out of the adddiction is possible, but will take a lot of work as the person may think this is the way to live and may not want to stop this addiction.
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  15. whitenoise

    whitenoise Senior Contributor

    Prostitution addiction looks like sex addiction to me. I don't know if what he likes is just the sex or the fact of calling these girls that make him feel better. But still , in my opinion, this can be considered an addiction under all the aspects.
  16. LilAnn

    LilAnn Community Champion

    Its possible, definitely. But I really just wanted to say I really liked your Charlie Sheen comment.
  17. ReadmeByAmy

    ReadmeByAmy Community Champion

    I pity what is happening to your Uncle because he is not just ruining his own personal life but as well as his family life. Yes he can date and go out with all the girls he wants as long as he had the money. But when the times comes he had no more in his pocket I am sure those girls will not hang around with him anymore. I think it is just easy to go out of this by focusing himself to his family. If ever he had problems or something is bothering him what he is doing is not the right answer to all of that things. A family will always be a family and he can trust them to support him in all his needs.
  18. Coolkidhere

    Coolkidhere Community Champion

    Maybe he has some deeper problem or issues that resulted to him using prostitutes for sex. He might have family, work or relationship issues that need to be resolved. But instead of resolving them, he turned to sex as an outlet. It is sad that he has to lose all their money for such acts. He might be addicted to sex but he must be counseled to know why he is so.
  19. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    This is one of the lesser known addictions. Just like porn a unhealthy sex addiction can ruin your relationships. Prostitution is worst tho, people can get locked up for this. Sex activates pleasure sensors in the brain similar to what drug addicts experience. If your married, porn or prostitution is something that can ruin your life. If a man is to be addicted to something it should be his own wife.
  20. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    Woah, I feel so sorry for your aunt, specially because she surely wasn't even expecting that (you said he didn't seem to be the kind of guy who would do that). I have heard from cases like this before, by the way, and I think it's the saddest thing for the other party. I truly hope this never happens to me.