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Facing humiliation!

Discussion in 'General Substance Abuse Discussion' started by 003, Feb 4, 2015.

  1. 003

    003 Community Champion

    Have you ever been felt humiliated in your life? It feels bad right, and often people credit it from your weakness. Take for example that because you are weak, you are not able to control yourself and so you yielded to addiction. People blame you for what you are. If what and who you are turned out not admirable, people look at you with disgust instead that they help you. So you feel to yourself that you are humiliated. So instead that you ask help from them, you'd rather keep it to yourself while feeling humiliated and share your scuffles with no one. This is really hard and deeply saddening. Sometimes I feel like I just wanna give up and commit suicide. But I think even if i committed suicide, Id be more humiliated and people will look at me again as weak and not as a troubled man who needs help.
  2. jeremy2

    jeremy2 Community Champion

    Everyone should take pride in who they are.Always walk with your head held up high and view yourself as a worthy individual.You should never let anyone take your pride from you for without it,we stop living and start existing.Each and every one of us has his/her shortcomings but this is not enough reason for us to succumb to whatever life throws at us.We should be bold and resolute and have the courage to make the right decisions.
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  3. stariie

    stariie Community Champion

    We all have weaknesses. Some weaknesses are worse than others, but hey, we live in an imperfect world, and we are imperfect people. We just have to try every day to do better, and not look at ourselves as failures. Pray for strength every day, 10, 20 times a day if you have to. Things can get better.

    It's never good to put faith in people, to put people up on pedestals, because then we try to live up to some fake standard that "they" have put in place, when the truth is that no one is perfect. Some of us do better than others, but no one is perfect, no matter how much they might try to play that role.

    Many people want to point the finger at you and tell you what you are doing wrong, but if you point out some of their faults (which could be worse than yours), then they get offended, and don't want to talk about it. They want to focus on making you feel bad.

    I could write a book about people who have tried to look down on me, and tried really hard to make me feel bad about myself, yet they, themselves were doing things that were bad. It's good to call people out and let them know that although you are not perfect, neither are they.
  4. Rosyrain

    Rosyrain Community Champion

    Humiliation happens to everyone, but people soon forget about the funny or embarrassing things we do in life to get humiliated. I get embarrassed very easy and I don't think it is a weakness in myself. Yes when something embarrassing happens, I want to crawl under a rock and hide, but I eventually get over it and move on with my life.
  5. bluedressed

    bluedressed Community Champion

    I probably felt humiliated more often than someone humiliated me. I know also some people who, even as someone tries to humiliate them, refuse to be even a bit embarrassed or shy. In fact, you cannot let the world humiliate you unless you allow it; it's partly on you, then.

    But even if we do get humiliated every now and then, it's not something to let ourselves get down. I remember being humiliated about so many things -- and sometimes I humiliated myself. The times when I humiliated myself are the times I still think about, years later. People trying to get me down had a lot of impact on me when it happened, but with time, it all just fades away.
  6. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    I have been through humiliation, but nothing really hard or difficult to handle. I think it's just normal. I mean, everyone of us has had some really embarrassing moments in life, and I think it's just normal. Life has a way of playing tricks on us. It just depends on our reactions with them.
  7. Charli

    Charli Community Champion

    The feeling of humiliation is almost always pointless or at the very least it is just counterproductive so it really is best to adopt an attitude of handling it responsibly. A small amount of shame is good for keeping our egos in check but that's about it. Most of the time, our own views of our own shortcomings are way more magnified than how others view it because everyone else is already busy with their own shame.
  8. elles-belles

    elles-belles Community Champion

    I have to say I agree with Charli on this one. With that being said, nothing is worth taking your life for at all, humiliation is a terrible thing that we all deal with from time to time but it also should help get us going and fuel our focus and determination to want to prove the people looking down on us wrong! I would suggest that you get some professional assistance in the form of a few or however many you would need counselling session. While at it, try and cut yourself some slack and believe that you are someone magnificent who deserves a healthy and fruitful life.
    All the very best to you.
  9. OhioTom76

    OhioTom76 Senior Contributor

    I feel like Facebook brings on a lot of unnecessary feelings of humiliation too - since every mistake you make on there is broadcast for all your connections to see. So if you've ever drunk posted on there, or gotten into a heated debate or argument on there, or accidentally did something that gave everyone the impression you were stalking someone on there - it can really be humiliating.

    Personally I've stopped posting on there for nearly two months now, just to take a break from it all. Initially I tried to not go on there at all, but that didn't work out so well, so now I just refrain from participating in it.

    Humiliating moments used to not be so bad to me in the past, if it was just among a small group of people - I would just leave them be and make new friends or find a new job, but these days with the internet, your embarrassing moments are sometimes stuck out there permanently for everyone to see.
  10. karmaskeeper

    karmaskeeper Community Champion

    You are stronger then you know truly you are. Being humiliated is a very damaging, and belittling thing. Just find it in yourself some where some how to make it work in your favor. That is what I did I use to know the feeling you speak of. Once I got myself together, and made a better me for me. Know one else mattered,and the words didn't even touch me or effect me in an way.
  11. JoanMcWench

    JoanMcWench Community Champion

    Everyone has moments of weakness. This is with or without the added burden of an addiction. I just think having an addiction is a way people take from a suffering man/woman as an individual. As in seeing the addiction as their weakness as opposed to just being a regular person with problems.

    Depressing as it may seem, you're human. We are all susceptible to hard times & a hard time dealing with said times. It's what you do in those moments that will end up defining you. Ignore the addiction tugging you down.
  12. kjonesm1

    kjonesm1 Community Champion

    I love this because it is so true. nobody is perfect, but once you can accept your imperfections you can carry on. In all of our flawed selves we can still change and grow and help others to do the same.
  13. Gelsemium

    Gelsemium Community Champion

    Sure because no one is perfect, so what's the point in pointing out other people imperfections and flaws if we aren't that much different?
  14. chanel2681

    chanel2681 Member

    I know that addiction is a struggle but you need to stay strong for yourself. It don't really matter how anyone else feels about you. You need to get help immediately. It looks like you are at your rock bottom and I would hate for you to be so low that you would commit suicide. Even though I don't know you, I would hate for something bad to happen to you. Please go to a program immediately!
  15. karmaskeeper

    karmaskeeper Community Champion

    I use to be the worlds worst when it came to letting words hurt me. I can just remember being so down on myself, and saying their right I am worthless. I felt that way because I wasn't ready to began my journey. I stayed down, and drunk being talked about was just part of that life. Looking back I suppose I gave them plenty to talk about.

    Once I had enough, and wanted to clean up my life. I worked damn hard to do so. Of course I had those that said she'll never do it, she'll always be a worthless drunk. I was determined to prove to myself I could do this, and prove them wrong at the same time. I did it, and they were wrong eat crow;)
  16. Linno

    Linno Member

    For me the humiliation stems from the fact I think I'm being judged all the time. For me it helps to remind myself that the people who I would feel humiliated by don't actually matter in my life. And the people who I care about are less judgmental and understand my situation more than anyone else so they just want the best for me. We all have our weaknesses and flaws, so we need to be kinder to ourselves and try and focus more on the strengths that we do have.
  17. drc52

    drc52 Active Contributor

    Humiliation is one of the worst emotions there are. It is never ok to humiliate someone in any situation. However if someone feels humiliated, but there is no one humiliating them they should think as to why they feel this way. When I used to drink 10 - 20 pints of beer a night I would wake up feeling extremely humiliated. It was easy to find someone to blame for the way I was feeling but I stopped feeling humiliated once I stopped abusing alcohol.
  18. imperivm1

    imperivm1 Community Champion

    What's good about humiliation is that it's only temporary. I know that it cannot simply be ignored and some might even keep the memory of an embarrassing moment years, if not decades after it occurred. We all experience humiliation at some point in our lives. This doesn't mean we should all become suicidal and blame ourselves for the deeds of our oppressors. Remember that most of the time it wasn't your fault you were humiliated or at least you didn't consciously wish to inflict embarrassment onto yourself, anyway. Why punish ourselves for someone else's wrongdoings or regret not having been able to influence events out of our reach? Reflect on this for a moment.
  19. amethyst

    amethyst Community Champion

    I think we have all experienced humiliation in various degrees. I was once severely humiliated by a previous employer in front of a group of people whom I had been teaching German for a year. It was all about money. My employer was drunk and barged into the classroom, bombarding me with very personal and private insults. I just stood there unable to say anything. In fact, my students were shocked, and I felt terrible about them having to feel bad as well. So, at the end of this terrible verbal assault, I simply apologized to my students and left the school. I gave notice that day, and never returned. Many of the students in my class called me and asked me to come back. But I had enough. Although, I didn't let them down. I simply offered them private classes.
  20. Charli

    Charli Community Champion

    I think using it to your advantage is great advice. Everyone goes through humiliating experiences sometimes and knowing how to use those experience will give anyone an edge over others. It's easier said than done of course since it takes a lot of emotional maturity to do so but it definitely is worth it to try and build that type of solid foundation.