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Find joy in yourself and by yourself

Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by akiram13, Feb 13, 2016.

  1. akiram13

    akiram13 Community Champion

    To really feel happiness is within you. Overcoming an addiction will bring true satisfaction and happiness. No one will give you happiness if you cannot give it to yourself.

    You have a right to be happy and the people who were at bottom know how to cherish it more than anyone else.
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  2. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    I think that's true about us needing to find happiness and joy within ourselves. Not from others, not from things, not from substances - but just internal joy. It's easy to find temporary highs in other things but lasting happiness and contentment can really only come from ourselves.
  3. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    Many people seek happiness where they can't find it. We can't rely on others to make us happy. Somehow we all forget the things that made us happy in the past but if we can find what it is that made us happy [it could be a hobby or something else] then maybe we wouldn't need anything or anyone else to make us happy. We'd know what we need to do to dispel all negative thoughts and feelings.

    “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
    ― Dalai Lama XIV
  4. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    I agree that our happiness can only come from within. Sure, external things can trigger that, but in the end we control our moods, so we must strive to be happy no matter what. If we are feeling sad, then we should do things that can make us happy.
  5. akiram13

    akiram13 Community Champion

    I think most people are dependent on that happiness should be given to them as their right. Which is wrong we cannot expect happiness to be delivered on our door step. If we want to be happy we will make it or find it ourselves.
  6. Adrianna

    Adrianna Community Champion

    Yeah you kind of have to manufacture it first in order for it to continue. Muster it up. It's kind of like driving a standard shift car too. Because that happiness and feeling is a very powerful thing once you get a grip on it. I don't know there is like a metaphor within the action of the clutch and acceleration of the car to me. Because you are able to be happy but can you maintain it, learn to use it, operate it. Like the car it gets you places, makes things happen. You feel something from this. Like you are one with the car. It's not like automatic at all. You are in control.
    You feel this great feeling of happiness, but then it goes. You are afraid of it at times. Seems like it's too much. But once you get the feel for it. You've got it. It's yours. You own it. Like shifting gears of a car. You feel like it's yours. You are in control.
  7. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    That is so true you have to love yourself and find happiness within before you can get through any addiction. So many people depend on other people for their happiness. They think that they need somebody else to feel happiness and that isn't the case at all. Once you find happiness within yourself you can look at life through a different set of eyes. Life is much better when you find your own happiness!
  8. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    If you can't be happy with yourself, then how do you fully expect to make other people happy?

    Learning to love yourself takes time, but once you've achieved that then you'll be able to get that happy relationship that you want with other people aswell then.
  9. Vinaya

    Vinaya Community Champion

    Finding joy is the ultimate aim of human life. What ever we do, we do it to find pleasure and happiness. We study in a hope that we will find a good job some day and become happy. We fall in relationship because we expect some day we will live happily ever after.
  10. Coolkidhere

    Coolkidhere Community Champion

    It is true, if you won't let yourself be happy, nobody else can make you happy as well. Only you knows what will truly make you happy. And believe me, drugs and alcohol aren't your real happiness. Yes, for a short time they can make you happy. But then after that, what happens? Isn't a temporary happiness, not real happiness? After all, to truly know that you're happy, it's when you feel satisfied and contented without any substance to help you.

    Finding that satisfaction and contentment without any substance is hard... Not a lot of people can do it. But if you do go into recovery, you'll find yourself feeling happy little by little. It is especially hard not to feel happy when you know that you can feel something now. Drugs and alcohol mask your real emotions, giving you a fake happiness.

    Wouldn't you want to have real happiness? Something that comes from within and can never be replaced by any material thing. So find that courage within you to change and once and for all, be happy for who you really are.
  11. i feel a vast majority of drug users only do it to fit in with friends around them and if they became more self aware of themselves and looked for friends who actually wanted to do good with life it would help them overcome addiction quickier !
  12. ReadmeByAmy

    ReadmeByAmy Community Champion

    This is absolutely right that our joy and happiness in life comes within our own inner self. You are the one making your own happiness in life. If you think something will ruin your life and happiness then do not engage yourself in doing such thing. If you will always have positive thoughts in your mind you will find the true pleasures and meaning of life.