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Forgive Yourself

Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by Mypearl80, Feb 2, 2016.

  1. Mypearl80

    Mypearl80 Member

    “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Mahatma Gandhi
    If you are overcoming addiction, you may need some kind words. So I am here reassure you that you are strong, you can forgive, and you can grow. You can rise above anything because you strong. Because you are a strong person, you are able to forgive. Forgive anyone, including yourself, that has hurt you or offended you in anyway. The past cannot be changed, but you can change the way you feel about it right now.
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  2. Waterel

    Waterel Active Contributor

    Mahatma Gandhi is one of the biggest thinkers of all time, that quote is so strong. Forgiving yourself is the best way to feel good about yourself and to start making good decisions. If you hate yourself you're prone to bad decisions, substance abuse, and many other things that only bring harm to yourself, to your body and also to others.
    Thanks for sharing!
  3. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    I forgave myself for what I did in the past simply because all my past experiences and memories have shaped me into the person I am today. You can't go through life without failing or making mistakes, the best thing you can do is to learn from them and move forward.
  4. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    I totally agree with you. You can never move forward in life if you haven't forgiven yourself yet. You have to accept that you're just a human being, and you have committed mistakes, and ruined things in the past. But that doesn't mean you don't deserve to have a much better life now. You are still capable of changing your ways, and starting all over again.
  5. Shenwil

    Shenwil Senior Contributor

    Sounds words, leave it to Mahatma Ghandi to come up with such meditational quotes. I also think it takes a person of strength and courage to forgive. Forgive and move on its the best solution for all.
  6. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    Healing speeds best if you learn how to forgive the people who've hurt you as much as you forgive yourself for letting your pain get the better of you. If you understand where you're coming from, then there's no need for you to walk on the path of destruction any further. Forge great bonds with other people, hear the stories of those who've had it worse and take part in a meaningful undertaking, you'll realize that there's more to life than wallowing in misery.
  7. Andorphin

    Andorphin Member

    That's important as well. Clinging in to the guilt can make things worse. Being able to forgive makes us 'free' and we are less overwhelmed by the negative thinking. However, just as we forgive ourselves we must forgive others as well. That way our minds are going to stay at peace.
  8. Waterel

    Waterel Active Contributor

    So true, everyone makes mistakes and everyone is capable on getting over it and starting a new life, where you will not make those mistakes again.
    Making those mistakes and forgiving yourself for making them, as it is just a step in life you need to take in order to learn, will make you conscious of the fact that some routes are the wrong routes to follow. And you will be led towards the good path.
  9. misskrystal1982

    misskrystal1982 Active Contributor

    I find forgiving myself to be the biggest hurdle to overcome. I can forgive others much faster than myself. Some days I think I have forgiven myself, and then I will have a rough day and I am not so sure. It's a daily struggle, and I hope to one day move past it all. I think that if I keep trying to move on, I will be ok eventually.
  10. djdrug

    djdrug Community Champion

    Well, you really have to love yourself. Sure being great and forgiving others is awesome, but that's not why parents forgive kids, friends forgive friends, or lovers forgive lovers. Love is an important part of the process. You can't forgive yourself if you hate yourself. So, the way forward is by loving the person you see in the mirror. Love everything about that person, even the quirks, because that person, that reflection is going to stick with you for the rest of your life, so might as well love it.
  11. Vinaya

    Vinaya Community Champion

    Don't ever consider yourself a culprit or a sinner. No matter what you had been in the past, you should always love yourself. Self love is more important than loving other people. If you had a bad past, you must try to justify that you have already left your bad self.
  12. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    Ah yes! Absolutely! Forgiving ourselves and not feeling guilt or shame for our past is important. I try and always remember my past as something that is a learning experience, rather than something I need to continually feel bad about. Time has certainly made that concept easier to accept!
  13. lonelyfaith

    lonelyfaith Member

    Forgiving yourself is sometimes harder than forgiving others. Sometimes we are abusing our own selves mentally too by not forgiving ourselves and replaying all the bad stuff we did over and over in our heads. Would we be friends with someone that kept reminding of us our failures and past and the things we did in the past? If not then we shouldn't treat ourselves that way either.
  14. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    Holding grudges are not really good for our emotional well being, so it's really best to just let it go and forgive the person who has hurt us. It may be hard for some people, but time heals all wounds.
  15. DN02

    DN02 Member

    Totally agree! You are more than your past mistakes. We all mess up sometimes - accept the past, let it go, turn the page, show yourself some compassion and move on. You're so worth it!
  16. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    The only way to move forward with your life, is to let go of the past and forgive yourself for what you've done in the past.

    While you should never forget, after all your past as made you who you are today, it's important not to dwell on things too much, as if you do that will affect your future.
  17. Adrianna

    Adrianna Community Champion

    Well it is one thing to forgive yourself, but sometimes you do need to pick and choose with other people. The company that you keep will have a considerable impact on your life.
    I've always been forgiving of other people the majority of my life. There has been rise to the kind that leave you no choice but speak your peace and walk away. Unless you are trying to run for a political office or have some need to please every person on the planet. Your well being could rely on choosing where to draw the line. Everyone has the right to decide who they associate with. Forgive, walk away, and be civilized, that is the right thing to do. Toxic or harmful people are better off kept at a distance. Gandhi was a public figure. He employed non-violent civil disobedience. Ghandi died by assassination. A shooting. There were five attempts before that. Do you think that statement he made about forgiveness helped him then? His assassination was more about what he took a stand for. I think it takes more strength to be civilized and walk away. You don't have to be everyone's friend. I'm not sure I've ever seen that statement about forgiveness from Ghandi.