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Friend in danger of drug relapse. Any suggestions?

Discussion in 'Heroin' started by mercurigera, Jun 19, 2015.

  1. mercurigera

    mercurigera Member

    A good friend of mine who has had a problem with heroine and other drugs in the past is in danger of relapse. I would really like to help him. I figured out he has been stealing pain pills from me (for a broken foot) and when I confronted him he asked me for help. He really has no money for a counsler and all I know to do is go to NA (Narcotics Annonomous) meetings with him for support. He says the meetings never really helped him before because people sit around and talk about doing dope. Is there any other alternative? In the DFW area of Texas?
  2. Totalarmordestine

    Totalarmordestine Senior Contributor

    Several things (from someone with nearly 15 years recovery from alcohol):

    1. If he is high, drop him off at the door of a rehab.
    2. If he is not high, don't take him to NA, take him to AA. We don't talk about drugs there--we talk about THE SOLUTION. MANY of our members are drug addicts who had the SAME problem your friend is complaining about--they glorify the drug usage.
    3. Have him call me. You can find out how to contact me if you search about 5 minutes on the net (16th Google hit would be the best one to try).
    4. STOP being his friend. If you remain his friend because he's "sick", you enable him to remain sick, not getting help. Some of us have to lose all our friends before we go for help.

    Oh... and AA is free and most rehabs are county or state funded somehow. If he needs the help, the rehab will get the funding.
  3. tarverten

    tarverten Senior Contributor

    Unless he gets involved in a 12 step program, like NA, he doomed to relapse. Most addicts do not like the program if they are not serious about getting clean and sober, because the old timers in the groups do not allow excuses. If he will listen to them he will succeed. You on the other hand must force him to go, or tell him to look for another friend. (The idea being he would rather go than lose you as a friend) You can go to an open meeting of NA and they will bend over backwards to help you understand, and help your friend. Please give it a try. Besides a miracle from God, this could be your only hope
  4. blastguardgear

    blastguardgear Senior Contributor

    Well, do his parents know? Do they support him at all? Because if they do, they could help pay to help him. If his parents don't know and he's scared of telling them, he should get past that. His life is much more important. If he doesn't tell his parents (or even another loved one that can help him), then you tell them. He may be mad at you for doing so, but in the end he will thank you. You say he's a good friend....well, do you have money to help him out?

    A friend of mine overdosed on drugs, and he missed a whole semester of school. You need to get your friend help ASAP. Call a doctor, a toll free hotline...anything to get information. Someone can help put you in the right direction.
  5. thepieeatingjay

    thepieeatingjay Senior Contributor

    There are free hospitals for drug addicts, and they will help, but your friend has to decied for themself do they really want to stop using. You can't help him/her, it is up to them.
  6. missbishi

    missbishi Community Champion

    If your friend has actually asked for help then there's a good chance he will succeed as the decision to quit has clearly come from within himself.

    I know that when I finally quit cocaine, I couldn't stand hearing other people talking about drugs. It just reminded me that such things exist when I was trying to forget all about them. AA sounds like a great idea though - he needs to get himself "into the system" and make himself known to people who are able to provide support.
  7. shadowsupernature

    shadowsupernature Senior Contributor

  8. Danyell

    Danyell Community Champion

    I live in Denton, it is north of Dallas and I would HIGHLY suggest SMART recovery. I have been to the meetings out in Ft. Worth and they are really good. I am a heroin addict so I know the struggle. Feel free to message me anytime!! I know of some really good HA (heroin anonymous) meetings around DFW too. And they aren't people just talking about dope either; I can't stand those. Haha.