To what extent will someone go for an addiction? I know that in the past, I've had to deal with a lot of embarrassing scenarios that, when I think about them, I'm glad I'm still alive and shudder at the thought that It could have turned out some other way. The right direction for me to take now is one where I no longer engage with other people, past normal conversation about whatever we're currently discussing. Anything outside of that is simply forcing me to invest more time in the relationship. I would say the fear of commitment is necessary but the fear of embarrassment is also a great way to stay clean and sober. How strong is the addiction that someone has to devote the time with other people to feed it? I've repeatedly made surprise visits to someone's house without a heads up, expecting them to accept me. There have been too many close calls with that as as I've gotten older, it's harder to get away with. It's pretty embarrassing.