I really want to help a friend deal with his alcohol problem. I really do. I've been pushed away by him several times (not physically, just figuratively) for trying to help. He's had a few sober months, but he always seems to come back. I usually don't take his words personally when he's in a mean mood, but the worst he's ever called me is being a hypocrite for still smoking. Maybe it hurts more because it's true... but I think at least I put more effort in quitting and I don't become as destructive to others as he is when he's drunk... not that I'm playing the "my addiction is not as bad as yours" of course (although he does make me feel like that's what I'm doing). Anyway, when he brings out the "hypocrite card" that's usually when I feel like giving up on him. Does anyone have any advice for this situation? Or even just have a similar experience?