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Getting Pushed Away

Discussion in 'Helping an Addicted Loved One' started by Rainman, Feb 26, 2016.

  1. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    Can someone successfully fight their addiction when they have no support at all?

    I've been trying to help someone who is unwilling to accept any help offered. Pushes everyone away, saying he started using drugs alone and he doesn't need anyone's help to stop using them.

    Could it be that this person still isn't willing to change? Should we give him some space and let him come to us when he's ready to get help?
  2. akiram13

    akiram13 Community Champion

    I feel like I was that person before. I can't really say because I dont know this person. But for me I was fighting an internal battle. I pushed any one and everyone away. I suggest that you never stop trying to be there and help this person but I also suggest that you do not lose patience and to give the person time to want to change. I believe someone really wants to change for themselves in order to actually take first steps in recovery. One day they will come around. An addition life is not a happy one.
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  3. darkrebelchild

    darkrebelchild Community Champion

    I feel your friend feels pressured by you; you could use another form of tactic like joking around about his use and telling scary stories of addicts like him. Find your friend's weak point and use it to help but if you are really a nuisance to him, I suggest you back off but not completely. Send him messages once a week to show you care and sooner than you think, he'll realize you are more than a friend.
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